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I'm a dominant woman seeking a real relationship with a submissive man. I want the whole deal - marriage, kids, and complete obedience when I choose to give instruction. I'm switchy around S/M, but not around D/s. Think kinky picket fence.

The easiest way to my heart is through providing good service. You would need to be service-oriented, truly and deeply. When someone attends to the little things, I melt. And who wouldn't want Domme putty in their hands?

I'm also a vicious sadist, a bloodthirsty wench with a liking for tiger balm as anal lube and canes. However, my desires are not absolute - what I want needs to blend with what turns on and feels good to my partner. I've had a "delicate flower" submissive, and we entertained each other quite nicely. Your limits will be respected, as long as you're telling me what really doesn't work for you or upsets you or turns you off, and not trying to tell me "no."


I'm also a masochist, who really likes a good spanking or caning or taking it up the, well, you know. ;) I like a lively romp in bed. I haven't yet been in a relationship with someone who can switch gears in this way, while still being submissive to me, but I have a hunch there's a boy out there somewhere with as many channels as I have.

I'm also a sensualist, loving the gentle dance of delicate touches. I love to massage, stroke, caress, delight. I love slow, sweet, vanilla lovemaking.

I'm intensely spiritual. I work as a professional psychic and shaman. I do energy work, and whether I intend to or not my partner's energy will be cracked open in some way through close contact with me. I'm a catalyst. Please be at least pagan-friendly. An active spirituality of some kind is a good thing.

I write, work in an office at a day job some of the time, garden, drum, chant, cook passionately (and it's great if you suck as a cook - what's important is that you're an appreciative eater), go nuts canning and drying at harvest time, knit, dance, hang out at the WetSpot, teach ESL to migrant workers, help edit a volunteer newspaper, and hang out with my friends.

I'd like to be in a "closet-capable" relationship. That is, I'd like to be able to be selective about who we share the D/s aspect of our relationship with. I won't be putting you in a big posture collar out in public. I won't require you to call me every day at 11:15 even if your boss wants to have a meeting. I won't embarrass you in front of your parents, and will expect that you act like a normal person at my family reunions and at the grocery store. However, please be aware that I am fairly visible in my local BDSM community and am a published porn novelist. There are plenty of arenas in which I am quite comfortable with people knowing all about my kink, and it would be good if you were as well.

I live in Seattle, and that's not negotiable. My family is here, and I moved back home 3 years ago to be near them. However, the right man is highly encouraged to find a nice job out here and come make a home for us. After suitable getting to know you stuff has been taken care of, of course.

Some stats: I'm about to turn 36. I have strawberry blonde hair down to my ass. I'm a big girl - pretty, with blue eyes, big tits, and the rest of the luscious handful to go along with it. Not Fetish Barbie. Not sloppy either - I go to the gym on a regular basis. I'm happy to provide a picture after receiving your letter and photo. I am very femmy, but be warned - I do not wear stilettos.

You should probably be between 30 and 45 - the ready-for-family age. I like big brains, quite a lot. Geek boys are splendiferous, but I'm willing to expand my horizons. Please be prepared to make a monogamous committment, in good time.

If you're interested, write to me. Normally I would not ask for service in an initial contact, but I would really appreciate it if you took the time to give me the following information: why do you consider yourself to be service-oriented? What does that mean to you, and how does it manifest in your life? What are you passionate about? What are you learning? What do you do for fun? What do you envision in a relationship? What are the kinks you must have or can't abide? Sloppy spelling and grammar have ruled out many an applicant, so if you're intrigued, please take the care to make sure your communication reflects your serious intent and ability to attend to the little things.

If you're local, we'll correspond a bit, and then meet for coffee. Then some dating. Then some working into sex/play, you know, like normal people do it. Please do not be expecting a scene early in our acquaintance. If you're not local, well, we'll play it by ear, as I do feel an in-person meeting is very important early on.

Thank you for your time...

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valerie19
 
 Age: 28
 London, United Kingdom