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| I'm just going to take advantage of this space to lay things out honestly. Maybe it won't win me a horde of friends or any positive attention at all, but if I'm not starting with honesty I might as well not start at all.
Firstly, I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm not looking for a friend, and I'm not looking to get my rocks off. I'm looking for real life BDSM interaction on an occasional, yet consistent, basis. I've not been involved in real-life play for a number of years and there is a hole where that used to be. I found BDSM play to be exciting, sometimes nerve-wracking, and most of all therapeutic. I would like to fill that hole.
Secondly (and where I may, understandably, lose many of you), I am married - happily - to a vanilla partner. She knows of my past interests but it is not an interest she shares. We have conversed on this before and it is not something she can bring herself to participate in. Because of this, I would like to keep to keep much of play non-sexual in nature. Yes, BDSM is inherently sexual but there are lines that I would prefer not to cross and we will not play together until both of us have discussed and understood them. Additionally, there should be a certain amount of discretion to our play: no pictures, nothing public, and sadly no obvious marks/cuts/bruises.
Thirdly, I am not your slave, dog, property, slut, or however else you choose to think of me until we are in scene or have agreed upon parameters. This means that I have written in complete and (semi?) intelligent sentences up until this point and would appreciate any correspondence from you to follow suit until we agree otherwise.
With that out of the way, what exactly am I looking for here? As was mentioned at the start, nothing but an occasional play partner. I'm looking for someone with whom to talk about interests and meet with for an hour or two of play once every 3-4 weeks with the potential for a more extended session on more rare occasions. I'm not interested in physical attributes like age, weight, or even in certain cases gender. I am not averse to tribute nor those who would consider themselves a professional.
As far as type of play, let's discuss. I have filled out the BDSM interest checklist so you can get an idea, albeit very small, of what I am interested in. I do like pain, especially impact play but as I mentioned I would prefer to limit any markings. I have never stopped craving bondage and in my past could find myself fulfilled simply by being blindfolded, tied, and left. I am also a fan of more heavy humiliation and degradation play, though I understand that this often requires a relationship and level of trust to be built before exploring too deeply. But right now, I think that I am most importantly looking for play that emphasizes humility and discipline but the door is open for discussion of all types.
I can't say that I honestly expect this posting to get much, if any, attention but if you've read this far and are interested in learning more please send a message if you're close by (close is relative, I work in town but commute from quite a distance west, so if you're further afield than Boston/Cambridge you very well might still be 'close').
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