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My interests involve many of the spiritual and psychological aspects of SM, in particular, but Ds in general. I love the intensity that sadomasochistic activities bring to my experience of intimacy. Most commonly, I have found my deepest connection and greatest excitement formed at the height of my sadism. I enjoy playing with fears, giving the healthy dose of mindfuck, confusing the senses and blurring the boundaries between pleasure and pain.
One of my major limitiations, however, is that I have little experience with the personal psychology involved in being a Dominant (which is why I prefer to use the word 'top'). In the past, I have managed to get great responses to my play when I have conjured a convincing and intense D/s dynamic ... unfortunately, I have not achieved this consistently. Thus, a large part of my current focus in this lifestyle is learning from those who may provide guideposts on the journey of exploration required to let the inner Dominant out to play in a healthy and sane manner.
In my vanilla life, I can be described in many ways depending on my mood, stress and level of sleep deprivation. I can be a scholar, a comic, a lover, a romantic, an evil bastard or a vindictive twit ... mostly, I try to remain true to whomever it is that is represented in that tangled mass of neurons atop my neck... I value people who are modest, honest, considerate, direct and open-minded. The narrow, arrogant, egocentric, conservative and conniving types just fuel my anger and are best advised to avoid me.
Overall, I think most people who meet me can tolerate me ... some may even go so far as to say that they like me (most of the time). So, if you seek someone who enjoys intelligent conversation about nearly any topic and are willing to engage honestly, then read on and see if you would like to talk.
At this point, I am a bit uncertain about what the future has in store for me. Therefore, I look for people who are available and open for conversation and **maybe** (stressfully on that maybe) RT physical interactions. I am interested in BDSM and the local Baltimore/DC scene, as well as scene related events in the Mid-Atlantic/East Coast region. I occasionally travel to Chicago (I have family there), and so BDSM connections in the Windy City are welcomed as well.
I am not here for a long-term serious relationship -- In fact, I am not certain if I am on here for any level of committment. Largely, this is because I just had to end a long-term serious relationship that just did not work out. But, in terms of 'loving energy' ... I am tapped at the moment. Thus, I seek friends, casual acquaintances and the occasional play partner (potentially involving sex, but not guaranteed right now).
I consider myself to be a 'top-leaning switch' (not 'true Dom' - but one who can play reasonably well in the role) - or at least that is how I would respond to the question of how I identify. That does not mean that I will expressly avoid female dominants, however, I am more interested in talking with female 'bottom-leaning-switches' and/or pure submissives. I welcome discussion from male Doms who have ideas to share (note: I am **not** advertising for same-sex play - sorry, I identify as HET - however, I am interested in the male Dom perspective on D/s relationship building) as well as D/s couples who enjoy living the lifestyle.
Finally, PLEASE be laid back and capable of chilling out ... do not ask or expect to change me I am only available to those who think I am acceptable to hang out with "as is". My profile is complete and carefully thought out. Those who will share my time will have taken the time to read and consider my whole profile relative to who they are and whether they fit.
Thanks for taking the time to read all of this rambling of mine ... back to your normally scheduled browsing now.
Nocturn
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