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I've been into BDSM since I was in my teens, and have had a couple of long-term relationships of a BDSM nature. I've realized that vanilla is simply not enough for me.
I am looking to find a long-term dynamic/relationship that involves submission more than just in the bedroom. I'd like some level of constant submission -- somewhere between just being deferential and full-on TPE. However, I do not like micromanagement. I want someone who can think and act for themselves within the established boundaries and rules of the dynamic.
I also would prefer someone with opinions who can (respectfully) disagree with me.
Other factoids: I will always treat you with respect unless we agree otherwise. Intelligence turns me on more than looks. Spelling and grammar count.
I am open to getting involved with a long-distance partner, with the intention of them relocating to San Francisco after a reasonably short time. My house has plenty of space for another person.
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One I am talking to asked me to give her a sense of "my darkness."
"My darkness" is a misnomer; I do not consider myself a dark person. I am, in fact, optimistic and happy most of the time, and I maintain that demeanor with my sub/slave. The dynamic I seek is not all about formality, restrictions, heavy pain and suffering; it is also about sharing laughter, fun experiences, and deep conversation or debate. |
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== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ == 100% Dominant 95% Master/Mistress 89% Owner 88% Degradation giver 85% Non-monogamist 84% Bondage giver 82% Sadist 70% Experimentalist 59% Brat tamer 45% Primal (Hunter) 45% Daddy/Mommy 22% Vanilla 16% Voyeur 11% Exhibitionist 2% Masochist 2% Primal (Prey) 1% Ageplayer 0% Submissive 0% Slave 0% Bondage receiver 0% Degradation receiver 0% Brat 0% girl/boy 0% Pet 0% Switch 0% All-Rounder See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.?id=505191 |
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I was reading Asimov's "I, Robot" yet again, and it struck me that his Three Laws of Robotics are actually remarkably adaptable to be the Three Laws of the Slave. See:
1. A slave may not harm its master or, through inaction, allow its master to come to harm.
2. A slave must obey the orders given to it by its master, except where such orders would conflict with the First Law.
3. A slave must prevent itself from coming to harm, as long as such protection does not conflict with the First or Second Law.
And I think that’s a beautiful framework. It doesn’t exact match the Prime Directive – the third law would have to be higher up – but honestly, I like it better.
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Age: 27 |
Fairborn,
Ohio |
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