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We all get so tied up in what we call relationships. We think of a relationship as how we relate to a person. That is true in a sense but the really important relationships are the ones deep within us. The relationship one builds with one's body. To sense what it needs and what it tells us. We need to build that relationship and listen not to numbers or readouts on a workout machine but to what our intuition is telling us about us. We need to listen to that deep inner self that lets us know when we are moving in a direction that takes us closer to true happiness and fulfillment and warns us when we move further away. We need to build relationships with others, not to do for them or have them do for us, but to enable them to stand in their own truth to do for themselves and for us. At this time of year we like to reflect on what has been and what will be. The holidays have filled us with so much to distract us from who we are and our relationship with self. It is the best time to turn toward the heart and to listen to the intuition and the guidance it provides. It is never wrong and never leads us where we should not go. It is the one unwavering constant in a world that changes with every breath. |
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This time of year people are looking to give of themselves; to give happiness to others. We often think it is selfish to think of ourselves even our dominant selves. Giving pleasure to another begins with giving pleasure to yourself. Before you can give the gift of joy you must first have joy to give. Think about how to give yourself joy and give yourself that gift first. When you are full of joy and completely happy you are the well those around you go to for their own happiness, their own joy. That is not selfish, that is the most wonderful gift.
My greatest pleasure is giving pleasure to my partner, whether I'm in a dominant or submissie role. In giving that pleasure to myself, allowing myself to experience that pleasure, my partner draws on my energy and experiences a heightened sense of pleasure. This cycle of pleasure is what builds into a crescendo of unbridled fulfillment.
This season choose to give joy to yourself! |
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Life and what's really important.
This has been an interesting week. This one week has been a microcosm of a lifetime. A dear friend got word her cured cancer has showed back up two years later in her lymph nodes. An event long in the planning went off without a hitch and the effects were so positive on some people, lives were changed for the better. An accident caused by road rage turned very minor when the rage was returned with acknowledgement of the person's stress. A spouse found time to do the very thing she had not been able to make time for over the past several weeks. Friends were there when needed without being asked. Other friends disappeared when asked for help. A little bird in Maine, a Puffin, became an inspiration.
Such is life with its twists and turns.
So what was really important? Living life itself!
The reward? Having someone tell you they are glad they talked to you. Having someone tell you it really was OK to cut her hair just like you said it would be! Watching leaves sail through the air like so many kites over a field of children. Seeing a last unexpected rose bud in your flower garden. |
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Remember when the Barbie doll came out? Maybe you are not near that old but it caused quite a stir. Even today girls are enamored with that gorgeous little doll; her perfect figure, beautiful face, and winning smile. Girls all over the world want to be just like Barbie. Her figure was crafted in a machine shop with no thought for feelings or needs. Every single doll’s figure is exactly like the last. Her face is fixed in a blank stare that never expresses passion or love. You know, she is just a piece of cold plastic. She will never know what it is like to be held when she cries, to be hugged while jumping up and down to her latest joy, or to feel the hot passionate embrace only the deepest inner soul can produce. She’ll not laugh over a silly mistake, or cry over a sappy movie. She’ll not have goose bumps because someone kisses her neck or runs their fingertips lightly across the back of her shoulders. She’ll never not fit into last year’s dress or cry over a bad day at the hairdresser. She’ll never be a woman and I wouldn’t want women any other way than exactly the way they are. |
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Unconditional Love a beautiful term and perhaps overused. Does anyone really know what it means? I used to think of it as love without expectations, without demands on the object of my love. If my love was not returned, then I would still love undiminished. I have come to understand Unconditional Love as something much more. It is actually love expecting EVERYTHING!! It is expecting the one I love to have the same depth of love I hold for that person, it is expecting everyone within the light of my love to return that love. It is expecting everyone and everything to be filled with the same warmth and love. My part to play in that expectation is to always expect to love that way even if another is taking another path. I expect every hurt done to me is done not because there is no love but because the path just took a sudden turn and I cannot see around the corner just yet. When I release myself from the burden of not having an expectation, love becomes so much easier. I expect love, I will expect myself to extend love, and to love unconditionally. |
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DON'T PANIC!!
...and so begins The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy! We are only human so we get caught up in the traps our egos lay for us. It is so easy to worry about "Will I find...what will he/she think...why won't they just..." and so many more. Each thing we do, and each word we say, is a twist and turn in the path of our journey. With each twist and turn we get a whole new view of the universe. REALX! ENJOY IT!! Today it might be a Black Hole from which no light escapes and tomorrow a Supernova of Brilliant Light! Its all part of the adventure!! I would rather dive head-long into a Black Hole to see what's on the other side (maybe I'll meet Einstein there!) than sit hoping the Supernova will never fade. Make your own hope and dream every dream. In the next instant the entire universe changes to something even more grand!!
...oh..don't forget your towel!!! |
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Each day I'm amazed at all the opportunities life gives us for many kinds of adventures. I'm also amazed at how this human animal we are reacts to life. Sometimes it seems to fit us well and sometimes it seems to run contrary to our nature. As you launch into that next adventure do so with all the expectations you can muster for your wildest fantasy-come-true!! |
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I met today with a spirituality group and each time I'm amazed at how people are coming to their self-awareness. So much of understanding where we want to go in life depends on understanding who we truly are. Life can be painful but pain changes us and with each change begins a new adventure!! Let the adventures continue!  |
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