I’m looking for someone I’m not only sharing my kinks with but someone who can appreciate me for my other qualities. That’s why I’m trying to tell you more about myself and not only me the Dom.

What can be said about me

It’s hard to categorize people but if you would try to do it with me loyal and helpful would come up. As would lazy. Probably. If you need me I’m there. I’m the guy that stays late when you need to get that moving truck empty.

I’m loyal towards good friends and partners. It’s sad that this can be counted as a positive trait. I believe it should just be the baseline. At least this way I’m trying to lead as an example somewhere.

I don’t let just anyone get close to me. My inner circle is small but they know i can be trusted and relied upon.

I also have a mean improvisational talent and a tendency to overdoing things. When i wanted to add a suspension point to the ceiling I ended up building a ceiling mounted track with a movable suspension point. At least now i know it will definitely hold.

In a pinch i might still just grab my belt to keep your hands fixated though.

Keeping in line with the one word deions you could use “cuddly” or “cozy” and wouldn’t be far of the mark. It isn’t the ideal image of a man you see in television or ads but that’s a hard standard to hold anyway. I am working on slowly getting in better shape but for now you get me the way I am. With all the small flaws, blemishes and dents life grants you throughout your journey.

I’m introverted, spontaneous, love to go out, love to stay in, a passionate movie goer, I swim and love to go on walks and many more. You know how it is when you write a list like that. You never manage to put everything down.

I’m usually up for anything at least once. You can always figure out after if you liked it.

I need time for myself. It’s not malicious or trying to be rude. I’m just trying to recharge from all that social interaction and there is only a small list of people i can tolerate near me during that time.

If you think you know what’s going on inside me, congratulations! You know more than i do.

Oh, and I’m also a huge sadist

Interests

Science Fiction, Fantasy, Other cultures (mainly their foods), Board games, BDSM in all its facets...

Kinks

I tried to make it as extensive as possible but failed spectacularly. Most of it are things i already practiced or at least dabbled in. Some are new territory for myself. You might notice that Bondage/Shibari/Fancy Ropework isn’t included in there. I have almost no experience in it and I’m okay with that. I use rope to stop my partner from getting away. I can do a few harnesses as well but that’s about the extend of my abilities. I love mental shackles (there isn’t anything better than her just holding still.)

I’m not expecting someone to fulfill all the things on here like some checklist but if your interests go anywhere in the same direction we might just be a fit.

This list does a bad job of showing how much i enjoy humiliation.

24/7, Anal Stretching, Anal Torture, Anal, Fear, Rimjobs, Spit, Suits (Myself), Breath Play, Blindfolds (Partner), Whipping, Ballet Heels (Partner), Bare Feet (Partner), Biting, Shaming, Bruises, Nettels, Tit Torture, Nipple Torture, CMNF, Cunnilingus, Deepthroat, Dirty Talk, Exposing, Humiliation, Tease & Denial, Blow Jobs, Figging, Fixation, Torture, Control, Clit Torture, Long Hair, Collars (Partner), Cuffs (Partner), High Heels (Partner), No Panties (Partner), Chains, Chastity, Tickling, Clamps (Partner), Gags, Corsets (Partner), Scratching, Cages, Leather (Partner), Masks (Myself), Masks (Partner), Receiving Massages, Giving Massages, Short Skirts (Partner), Mummification, Sub living naked, Naked in “public”, Pee Play, Slapping, Oral, Orgasm Control, Plug (Partner), Sensory Overload, Play fighting, Caning, Drool, Spanking, Public Sex, Sensory Deprivation, Cum Play, Marks (Partner), Electro Play, High Heels (Partner), Tattoos (Partner), Kicking, Tears (Partner), Interrogation Play, Voyeurism, Wax Play, Temperature Play, Gagging, Straitjackets (Partner), Bending her over my knees, Bodywriting, Misogyny

Non kinky but important:

Cuddling, Getting my beard scratched, fits of laughter, watching movies together, cooking

Limits: Age play, Scat and permanent markings

What am i like as a Dom?

I am a sadist. Four words that say a lot and at the same time nothing at all. That’s why I’m trying to differentiate it a bit.

It is not the pain directly that turns me on. It is my partner's willingness to accept the pain just because i want her to. If she likes pain or just endures it for my pleasure is not relevant. Both variants are exciting in their own ways.

I enjoy pushing boundaries with my partner. To make her beg for more. Knowing i can take what i want and she is giving it to me willingly instead of having to punish her.

Therefore punishment is not my preferred way to lead in a D/s relationship. Punishment needs to be administered if it is warranted but i would rather have my sub be a slave of my affection than my whip.

I take care of my Sub. It’s not “undignified” to give her a massage after a hard day or give her a break to relax while I’m taking care of the chores (although it can be fun to pretend that it is.)

I don’t mind going down on my knees in front of my partner to take care of her. Devotion happens in the head and a slightly uncomfortable sitting position doesn’t change that fact. (But it looks pretty when shoe does it :D)

Submission means to give not to take. Why should i take what i want? I prefer to show you that I’m the person you want to give it to.

What am i looking for?

Im looking for a submissive long term partner but I’m not opposed to just meeting new people in general.

I’m looking for someone to explore with. To experience new kinks and and strengthen the known. A woman who isn’t just a sub but a friend. I’m not just a Dom. I am a human. I have needs and urges as well.

Im looking for someone I can shoot the shit with but get serious when she forgot to do the ordered chores or tasks. Someone who puts something into the relationship and isn’t just an “Okay, Sir”-Bot. (Seriously, i could take an hour out of my time and could program a better interaction than i had with some people i met online)

Now this does not mean bratty. In fact i prefer it when my partner is not on the bratty side. If you want to get spanked you don’t need to act up until i punish you. You can just ask if i might be so nice as to spank you.

I’m also looking for more than just in the bedroom stuff.

If you just think I’m a fun guy and would love to play sometime you can hit me up as well. Preferably with an idea you would want to try.