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| Changes again. Thanks for stopping by :-)
Can you handle an extremely intelligent, self assured, painfully honest, mentally healthy, motivated, driven woman who just happens to be delightfully submissive in the bedroom?
I am preferably looking for long term, not a one night stand or a casual Dom/sub relationship. 24/7 not possible at this stage of my life. Friends appreciated, too.
When you enter your 50s there are more considerations than how you look hanging from restraints! Character, intelligence, sense of humor, all play a part in life.
You must be: extremely intelligent, sweet, loving, drug and alcohol free, experienced as a Dom, passionate, and interested in possibly sharing the rest of your life, not just a small chapter of it. If you are married, you must have the freedom within your marriage to pursue outside interests.
You must be mentally healthy, playful, comfortable financially (not rich, just comfortable), and self assured enough that an assertive woman does not threaten your Dom status.
Oh, and you absolutely must be willing to respect limits.
Complete discretion expected due to professional career. Thank You!
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Ok, so I'm still curious about this. Why is it that some people who see that you are on collarme assume that being submissive means you want to go from "hi, how are you" to "let's talk about your deepest darkest and most incredibly kinky intimate fantasies and if you'd like, I'll send pictures" in ten seconds or less?
I originally placed this ad looking for a life partner. That's as in "life". As in 20 years to life. Not as in "life of the party".
Do people assume that because I am submissive that means I will lower my standards of what I think is appropriate?
Is there not someone who thinks about wanting a partner who you can be just as proud of for accomplishments outside as inside the bedroom?
Just pondering.
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Thursday, September 6th, 2007 - Hello, everyone, I hope that the promise of autumn and cooler weather is alleviating some of the angst that those of us who suffer from summer heat feel, particularly this year.
Oddly, at this time of my life, I am questioning the true significance of BDSM. Then again, I am questioning the true significance of a lot of things in life.
I wonder, at times, when I read some BDSM journals, if masochism involves a consentual form of self inflicted mutilation by proxy, in a sense. The desire to hurt oneself by self inflicted violence is actually "commitment" material...as in psychiatric hospital commitment. But if one can find someone else to inflict this pain, does it become a folie a deux?
Just wondering. Thinking out loud, you know, about things that I just don't know where else to think them.
I grew up in a time when people dated, then mated (usually getting married in between). I'm not sure that I understand where BDSM fits in for a longterm relationship. I don't know many BDSM relationships that last very long.
Are there "normal" (yeah right) relationships where people marry, have kids, etc. and live BDSM lifestyles?
Wondering...pondering...
As I grow older, I wonder, what do senior citizen BDSMers do when the frailty of the physical body precludes the wild, wanton, all night long sex acts of our middle aged lives?
Growing old with someone is important to me, at least in theory, is something I plan to do. BDSM seems so temporal.
Just thinking out loud.
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I've had a lot of interesting responses coming my way. Something that I find curious is email from persons who identify themselves as Dominants who seem quite angry that someone who identifies herself as submissive can have criteria for potential partners. It is almost as though because I am submissive, some think that I do not have any choice in the matter.
Although I don't claim to be an expert on BDSM matters, I can state that I do have choices and in my humble opinion, it is okay for a submissive to know what she wants and try to find it.
Submissive, dear Dominant readers, is not spelled D-O-O-R-M-A-T.
I have been blessed in my past to have been in the presence of a couple of wonderful men who took as much pleasure in meeting my needs with their domination of me as I was able to take from that very act. Win-win.
What has been extremely interesting to me is the HATE mail I've gotten from a (fortunately) few men who took the opportunity to thoroughly upbraid me for my statement on narcissists and borderlines. Hmmmm, almost made me think "methinks thou dost protest too much".
As for alcohol, I'm not hung up about that, someone who drinks here or there doesn't bother me. I've just found in my own experience in real life that alcoholics lie and I don't think it is in my best interest to hand over the keys to my handcuffs to someone who cannot be honest.
Nuff said. Hope everyone of you finds the woman of your dreams tonight :-)
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| Age: 30 |
| Cincinnati,
Ohio |
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