I am seeking a real-life BDSM relationship that incorporates intimacy and romance. While some see this as undermining the D/s dynamic, I disagree. Though I would be fully committed to our respective M/s roles and would seek to challenge you and deepen your submission, I believe that this can best be accomplished in a loving and trusting environment where romance and submission can effectively co-exist--one reinforcing the other. In this manner, a girl is provided with the structure she needs to make her feel safe, owned, and desired while being molded according to her Master's wishes.

The strongest bond and control that a Master can have over his girl is not physical, but psychological. Thus, the way that I approach the trappings of a D/s lifestyle reflects this understanding. However, such a regimen must be practical, allow for spontaneity, and able to be incorporated into a girl's daily life, not exist as simply a fantasy to be resorted to on occasion. I do not believe that D/s can be effectively turned on and off; rather the key to happiness and longevity is to incorporate it as an undertone in the relationship that exists at all times--to be adapted as necessary and appropriate depending on the environment and circumstances. It is in this manner that the D/s flame in a relationship can remain strong and not be extinguished by the demands of real life. As my lady and harlot, she must be able to shift gears from lewd and lascivious to classy and presentable--and back, as I desire. This contrast and requirement lends an element of sexual tension and excitement to one's daily existence, and provides for a degree of uncertainty that keeps a girl wet, wanting, and wondering.

If you have within you the need to move beyond the fantasy and live the M/s lifestyle in a completely real but practical and caring context, and you have the strength, spirit, and commitment that is required, I'd like to hear from you. Perhaps we can make both of our dreams come true.