Responses to my first journal entry have been mixed.  Some people have offered explanations of behalf of those gentlemen who send me messages without including anything of substance about themselves.  Some have teased or patronized me for being unaware of how Collarme works.  Others have continued to send me those unwanted messages.

There are a couple things I must make clear.  First, I am well aware of how Collarme works.  I was giving vent to my frustration, not writing out of naivete.  I don't believe that understanding certain circumstances is cause enough to not feel frustrated about them.  Such frustration is fundamental to social change--not that I believe my frustration will bring about change on CM.

Second, everyone seems to assume I was voicing my annoyance over receiving dumb e-mails.  That's not true.  I have this profile mostly so I can message people who catch my eye.  I found it astounding that, despite my relatively empty profile, and  in a sea of well developed and detailed profiles, people were still singling me out (because, again, they weren't just writing to me to feed their masturbation fantasies for the evening).  It struck me as strange and very interesting.  Hell, maybe it says something about the dommes on here who have filled out their profiles as much as it says something about the subs.

I'm amazed how many people (most of them guys) message me every time I sign on to CM.  I mean, there isn't anything even on my profile.  Its blank....so, what are they expecting when they message me?  Almost all of them are simply a "hi, how are you?" which I find almost creepy.  I'd certainly be kinda creeped out if this were Facebook or something and I got a PM from someone I didn't know who simply said that.  Let's pretend this is Facebook, people.  You're welcomed to message me if you don't already know me, but PLEASE tell me why the hell you are messaging me in the first place.  

The second most common message I get is one in which guys say "Hi.  How are you?  I want to serve you."  Okay...at least you are sort of giving me your reason for messaging me....but come-the-fuck-on!  Why me?  Why, when looking for someone to serve (and presumably you aren't messaging every old gal you can find....because I know you aren't just on here looking for jerk off fodder), did you choose me, the lady with the blank profile?  It doesn't make any sense!  None whatsoever.  Some don't even say "How are you?".  These people make no pretension at all to try to get to know me.  Why would you seek to serve someone you know nothing about?  That's so incredibly silly it would be laughable if it weren't so fucking unsettling.  

Also, just a personal preference, don't address me as "miss", "ma'am", "mistress", "goddess" or any other such title.  You don't know me and you aren't my sub, so goddess and mistress are highly inappropriate, and frankly, offensive.  Miss and ma'am bug me because, in this day and age, if you meet a girl my age on the street, you would not address her as either of those.  Nobody's ever called me either.  So neither should you.  It just sounds so creepy to me.

Ok.  *deep breath*  Rant over.  Shit better start shaping up.