Kinky Dating:

I am a woman who has been involved in spanking for a long time. I am a born spanko.  It runs in my blood. But before any of that I am just a very normal natural person with a vanilla lifestyle. If I were to meet someone on Match.com I wouldnt discuss sex or spanking openly. If I met a vanilla man for dinner, I would hope that he would be a Gentleman and discuss other topics then sex. Why is it when it comes to kink do we forget our manners? I want a man who wants to get to know the real me first and foremost. I have a life outside of spanking. I have vanilla friendships and a family. My priorities are intact. I want that guy I can share my every day life with. We are both on a kinky website, we obviously share that passion. So if you're single and looking-please don't message me asking all about the fetish and how I like to be spanked or how I would spank you. To me that's something that comes after getting to know each other and exchanging a few emails. I don't even know if I would want to play with you! After you write about yourself if you want to mention your interest, in another paragraph (preferably towards the end of your email)  please do so. But an opening statement on BDSM isnt really going to get you far. Neither will a two line email. If you want me to know you, then allow me to do so by writing me a longer note. Take the time to present yourself. This is the first impression you're giving to me. Please make it a good one!

Levels of attraction-

  I am putting this in here because its important. Physical chemistry and connection are the first things we see and feel when we meet a person. We all have our standards of what we want for ourselves, the kind of significant other we hope to attract. Its all subjective and beauty lies within the eyes of the beholder. For me its tall men, who know how to dress nicely regardless of their body shape. Clean cut, beautiful eyes, a sweet smile, and of course a great ass. I am open about that. Does that mean I will find every man with a sweet smile and bubble butt attractive? Probably not.  I am also open about the fact that I am a BBW. (Big Beautiful Woman) I am confident, secure, and attractive. I know how to dress for fun, for a night out on the town, and I look really adorable in pajamas. I carry my weight very well. But this isnt for everyone.
The last time I went to my Doctor, she told me that I am extremely healthy-but being overweight could prevent that from continuing. Of course it could! So could someone who smokes and continues. I've read a lot of articles about men and women who believe that those who are overweight are lazy, or unhealthy.
If someone saw the exercise I do at the gym, when I feel like going consistently they wouldnt call me lazy. On a recent trip to San Francisco I walked from china town to the golden gate bridge and across it. Can someone unhealthy do that? I come from an Italian family-we cook we eat and then we talk about what we will eat at the next meal. Its funny-I grew up loving food. Sometimes its not the healthiest of foods, but its good nevertheless LOL. I am open to eating healthy meals and exercising with a partner. I want someone to grow old with. I want to remain healthy to grow very old. But I understand that images can change and beauty can only be skin deep. Attraction lasts for only so long and then there needs to be a deeper level of that attraction. Do you agree?

I have never been ridiculed for my weight. I have always attracted good looking men and I want to continue to do so. But if attractive to you is a size 4 keep looking, and don't bother making contact. Life is to short and precious to waste time. I don't have a picture up because I choose to remain anonymous until someone catches my eye.

 I am not writing this to prove a point. I am writing it because I am hoping to weed out those who have issues with woman who have extra weight on their bones.