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To all picture seekers;
I have absolutely no intention of making a public extravaganza of myself on this or any other site. If you think this disqualifies me as a potential relationship, well, tough luck for one of us...
If you're really interested you can always ask for a picture. If I like the way you ask I may send you privately (a G rated) one.
Other then that what shall I say? Not the dumbest, nor the ugliest. Been there, seen that, ask politely I might even tell you some of it.
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About "fakes".
The worst insult people can thrust at each other in this site is calling a person a "fake", or so it seems.
I'm happy to report that I am not excluded from this long running trend. In my case I was initiating a mail exchange that later evolved into a YM chat with a woman. I didn't commit myself to a meeting, I never make such promises as every person who ever corresponded with me here can testify, and, after chatting and getting to know each other reasonably enough to be able to make some intelligent choices it become apparent, for me at least, that there was no match. Don't get me wrong, there was nothing wrong with the woman, it just so happened that I felt that while I did enjoy chatting with her an actual meeting might not work.
At this point more or less she started pressuring me and when I failed to comply I was called, you guessed it, a fake.
now, this made me wonder. What might she mean by calling me a fake? Am I one?
I am a real person, I do exist in the real world. There is a real flesh&blood living human being behind these words typed into the computer. I also consider myself a reasonably honest person. I sometimes bent the truth in the same way most people do, out of politeness, curtsey and even compassion, simply to avoid hurting people. I try my best not to make promises I might not be able to keep. Was I being successful in keeping all the promises I ever gave? Probably not. Does this makes me a fake? Only if most people in this world are.
Chatting with other people I discovered that it was a common practice around here to declare people fakes. There was, I noticed, something common to most of the cases I heard. The so called "fake" person refused a request made by his soon to be accuser.
Aha... this lights the whole thing in a new light. Fakes, as it turned out, are simply people who dare refuse requests from people they hardly know.
I am now a proud and independent fake. |
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To my astonishment I discovered that some of the people in this site are not exactly what they pretend to be. Oh, the shock....
Unfortunately for them the attempts are so pathetic they serve mainly as a comic relief.
As a service to the community I'm attaching here a "conversation" I had with one of those scoundrels. As to not be in violation of CollarMe's rules I'm not exposing that person's screen name but I can say that the account included a picture of a reasonably attractive women and, as so many other accounts here, was an obviously sloppy con job.
For your intellectual pleasure, a rather entertaining chat;
cl:
Sir i am very much in bad mood and i need help now sir but i want someone honest with me to share my problem with sir if you promised to be honest with me and help me sir
mostlyharmlesss:
Why of course. Just tell me how much you want me to send you and were. Or shall you prefer me to simply send you my bank account number?
cl:
i need about $2500 to pay for my flight..if you want me to come over to you just tell me your local airport sir and i will glad once you get the money sent to the flight agent sir?
mostlyharmlesss:
2500? You must be flying business class. Hmmm, maybe I should consider some slavery myself.
cl:
it was fly bussiness sir and i have another one of $950 and i font know if that will be ok sir
cl:
u still there sir
mostlyharmlesss:
Nope. I'm long gone.
cl:
that means you dont want me anymore sir
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Funny enough there is little difference in tone between "sub" and "dom" women profiles. Both seem to try to set the rules.
Admittedly control, to a great extent a synonym for trust, is to be won rather then freely given and yet there seem to be an attitude problem here.
On the face of it this is the result of the classic supply and demand economic model. Male population in this, as well as other, meeting (and mating) sites greatly outnumber its counterpart, thus females are on higher demands, a fact that gives them the power to set the rules.
And yet life's never this simple (nor is the economy as we so spectacularly finding out these days). Talking with a few women, having real conversations that is, the frustration seems to be crossing gender borders with both sexes complaining (I dare not say "bitching" here) about each other which, when one stops to think about it, is just normal human behavior.
My interests lays with the "sub" portion of the female population of this community thus my comments should be applicable, if for any, only for these.
Girls, while I certainly understand and can even relate to your concerns I think a different tone might get things started on a better foot. It really is not much pleasure feeling one is commanding you before we even got to know each other. There must be subtler ways to communicate your wishes, desires and needs. 'Well', you might say, 'If you don't like our attitude just go away, there always will be others just lining'. Thing is, this is just an illusion. How many of these others are serious? How many a good match? After everything' said and done you might discover you don't really have that many GOOD options (bad once you'll always have plenty).
Try just not to discover this too late. |
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| Age: 37 |
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