monkeymalice on Collarspace

My OKC Profile:

I am looking to meet new like-minded people and make new friends. I would like to have chemistry and a connection with the people that I meet. I am open to something more with the right person.

I do like to go out to eat in my street clothes (t-shirt and jeans) and get dinner and see a good movie.

A few of my favorite things:
Linux, power tools, rad screwdrivers, data centers, servers, rope, camping, rappelling, boot blacking, hiking, kick boxing/muay thai, creating music playlists, boot blacking - oil tanned and high shine boots/shoes

I am introverted and an INTJ. Here are some links to get a better understanding on what that means:
http://jerrybrito.tumblr.com/post/6114304704/top-ten-myths-about-introverts
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/302696/
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/exploringourmatrix/2012/04/how-to-care-for-introverts.html

I am on the mono-poly spectrum. This means I am OK with my partners having partners; however, I only have sex with one person at a time. This might change depending on the person or the dynamic that I have with someone. I am also play-poly meaning I play with more than one person non-sexually in the BDSM context. I am willing to be monogamous; however, am not going to give up the opportunity to scene/play with more than one person.

I guess my profile status shows I reply selectively. I can be a bit flakey checking messages. The majority of messages that I receive that I do not reply to, are from the 20-something year old's. I am not interested in dating someone younger than 30.

You: Are open-minded and willing to try and learn new things. Enjoy getting dressed up and going out to a black tie event. Have a full-time job and a place of your own. You have a dominant personality and are in control of your life and your surroundings. You don't smoke and you lead an active lifestyle.

What I’m doing with my life

As of October 2012, I just moved to the Seattle area! I accepted a full time job opportunity with a telecommunications company in downtown Seattle. I am working as Network Analyst.

Before moving to the Northwest, I moved to CA from IL in
2007. I worked as a Systems Administrator and a Data Center Technician monkey for Microsoft, Macrovision, Monta Vista Linux. Before that in IL, I worked at State Farm Corporate Headquarters Data Center.

I am a single mother of an 14 year old daughter who lives in IL and I have a 4 year old French Bulldog named Betsy.

What does your dog say about you?

Bulldogs are determined, persistent, and do not give up easily. People who own bulldogs are said to be silly and love to laugh but can be viewed as stubborn at times. They are extremely efficient and methodical in completing tasks. While they appear intimidating, bulldogs are gentle and loving members of the family known for being hopeless romantics with sentimental streaks.

I am currently a member of the San Francisco Girls of Leather and am working on becoming a member of the Seattle Girls of Leather.

I’m really good at

Building and repairing computers
Keeping my surroundings clean and organized
Having and keeping an interesting conversation
Being honest and communicative
Open-minded and willing to try new things
Home Improvement (IColumns for Sega Genesis

The first things people usually notice about me

My freckles, my "gorgeous eyebrows", my piercings, my chucks, my tattoos, my buzz cut
I am shy but quickly warm up to someone that I have a connection with
I am very polite, well mannered

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Books: CompTia, The Dogs Who Found Me by Ken Foster, Max Brooks, The Zombie Survival Guide and World War Z, The Last Temptation of Christ by Nikos Kazantzakis, Sacred Kink by Lee Harrington, The Bottoming Book, Playing Well with Others by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, Guide to Bootblacking and Leather Care by Daddy Wendell.

Movies: Sci-Fi; Horror; Indie; B-Films, Erotica. Top Favs: The Family Man, Groundhog Day, Revolver, Overboard

TV Shows: Dexter, True Blood, Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Borgias, Stargate Series, Battlestar Galatica,

Music: Alternative; Electronica; Indie; Industrial. Top Favs: Seabound, Edge of Dawn, Assemblage 23, Covenant, VNV Nation, Informatik, Wolfsheim,

Food: Thai, Mediterranean, Mexican, Italian, Indian

Favorite Quotes:

Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My god do you learn.-C.S. Lewis

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
-Dr. Seuss

I am selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times, hard to handle. But, if you can not handle me at my worst, You do not deserve me at my best
-Marilyn Monroe

Sadism is all right in its place, but it should be directed to proper ends -Sigmund Freud

Two things are wanted by a true man, danger and play. Therefore, he seeks a woman, as the most dangerous toy.
–Friedrich Nietzsche

He who knows not, and knows not that he knows not, is a fool. Shun him. - Omar Khayam

The six things I could never do without

Computers, Dogs, Foodies, Interwebz, Money, and BDSM

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Being dominated mentally and physically, low maintenance, non-confrontational friendships, building a NAS to store digital media, how to configure Nagios on the back-end. How do I implement Symantec Backup Exec properly, and how to configure and maintain Active Directory (I loathe Windows) Did I already mention BDSM?

I've often thought about no longer dating polyamorous partners. I think it would be nice to not have to share with someone else for awhile. If I meet someone that already has 3-4 partners, I probably won't move forward. I HATE being the 5th wheel.

Is my profile too scary? My roommate seems to think I am too honest about BDSM and that might scare people away or intimidate them. Would someone want to know this information now or later?

The OKC question/answer: Do you want your partner to be kinkier than you? Not possible. This amuses me. Most of the time, I am.

Why won't people talk and have conversations on the phone anymore? I guess I am old fashioned! :P

"... Life is lived in real time. It is that simple. People's experiences reside in the here and now. No matter how much people try to implement online as a substitute for reality, the fact stands that we are 'face-to-face' people. This is something that is naturally within us.

Humans beings are designed to utilize the five senses. For those who were absent that day, these senses are sight, smell, touch, hearing, and taste. Our daily lives are filled with instances where these senses are put to use. And, the stronger the stimulant of the sense, the more memorable it is.

The problem with online is that we are unable to have many of these senses provoked. In fact, taste, smell, and touch are not present in online communications. The two senses utilized are hearing and sight with the former being missing in many interactions. Therefore, no matter how much the pro-online people claim that their relationships properly reflect reality, the biological makeup of an individual proves otherwise."
http://dennisnajee.blogspot.com/

On a typical Friday night I am

Places that you might see me in Seattle:
The Cuff, Mercury @MachineWorks, CSPC aka the Wet Spot

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Places that you might see me in SF:
Citadel, BAGG, The Armory, Cat Club

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I am at home adding more storage to my jbod, downloading media, creating playlists

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

I am a masochistic bottom/submissive in the BDSM community.
I am a film extra for the Upper Floor on kink.com

I’m looking for

Guys who like girls
Ages 30–50
Near me
Who are single
For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners

You should message me if

You are interested in meeting in person for a real time emotional connection
You are familiar with and/or interested in BDSM
You identify as a Top, Dominant and/or Sadist
You are former/current Military - I am highly interested in military boot camp scenes