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Pan Female Dominant, 28,  Buffalo, New York
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 Dominant Female


 New York

 5' 5"

 220 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Submissive Male

Switch Women

Switch Men

Sub/Sub Couples

 Lives For:


 Anal Play


 No Strings Housework



 Web Surfing


 Intellectual Discourse

 Political Activism


 Art Galleries

 Bar Hopping

 Coffee Shops





 Hair Pulling



 Comedy Shows

 True Crime

 Body Art





 Curious About:

 Electrical Play

 Fire Play

 Needle Play



 Conservative Politics



on fetlife by the same name.
currently a student and working. Im pretty socially active and engaged so clashing social views will dampen any romantic interests, but Im a fan of the Socratic method, so...
Queer with no pronoun preference, Im open to all. Poly and partnered with a vanilla guy thats been a great support system in my life.

Im mixed and find myself preferring play partners that are mixed as well, regardless of the mixing, or if you happen to look like your components. Its not uncommon for racial attributes to be fetishized within this community and its not necessarily a deal breaker either, however Ill want many deeply probing conversations to establish comfort with a persons reason for doing that. All in all, its just not something Im interested in partaking in.
Within my sexual past are a few occurrences of sexual assault rape that have affected me and my present sexuality. I share this so that you have a fuller understanding of who I am as a person, and thats all.

only looking to find local play partners, as I want physical contact and the intimacy touch develops, so Im not interested in online or LDRs. Listed as a sadist because that seems to be the most fitting category in regards to my kinky enjoyments. impact play, tease and denial, orgasm control, facesitting, cock and ball torture, instruction, ass play unff! those are some of the biggies for me. Im not a big fan of penetration and can go long periods of time without it, so if your aim in contacting me has anything to do with getting your dick wet and sidelining kinky play, Im good. keep it moving. Could literally find penis-in-vagina sex on any app. (that sentiment also applies to people trying to sit on my dick, love me some pegging, but thats not the sole intent of being on this site for me).

seeking masochists, bottoms, possibly subs or switches depending on how we get along. if you primarily identify as a male dom, top, master, or any other variant, I am not interested in play, but friending is cool (so long as you never try to convert me). I have no interest in playing bottom, submissive or play with couples. hard limits illegal activities, scat, vomit, diapers, and some s of public play. also, if youre under 24 or over 50, chances are pretty good that I wont be interested in playing with you.

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Journal Entries:
2/14/2018 6:28:17 PM
this is an excellent read:

Meet the dominatrix who requires the men who hire her to read black feminist theory

1/6/2018 3:53:43 PM
the more i play, the more i feel like i need to find a masochist. someone who enjoys pain, and is open to trying various forms of painful play. i don't feel like I'm very dominate, or much of a top, even. i just want to tease, and torment someone. *lesigh*

&/or a slutty, wanton boy looking to be filled, and pounded. me and my simple, girly wishes.

12/25/2017 9:22:03 PM
it's a huuuuuge turn off when someone starts a message along the lines of: "i am worthless/you are my everything/I'm your scum/plzplzplz consider me/feminize and belittle me/here's my log in information/online session?"


let your initial message to me be neutral, respectful at most. don't start out in "play" mode, because i don't know you, nor you i. my initial contact with someone referring to themselves as scum, worthless, etc., sure as hell doesn't entice me into conversation.

don't say that I'm your everything, you don't know me. it's obsurd to say such a thing, and indicates to me that you have no tact, or patience. this also applies to people providing me their log in information, though I'm sure spambots are attached to that somehow.

i do not like forced feminization based on humiliating or degrading a "man" in a typical feminine get-up. the basis of that play, to me, reads as "haha, you're a girl! how stupid!" and that doesn't sit well with me at all. if you'd want to do forced fem from an empowering, or just cause (with no emotional play at all), totally down.

my profile clearly states I'm not looking for online play, unless you're willing to pay me. if not, fuck off. if you're within my travel area, or willing to meet me, then i don't need pay for play. unless you aren't my type, and if that's the case, again, fuck off if you aren't paying.

wayyy too many bullshit, cut and paste messages.

ooh, and my screenname is missdebris, so it's a safe bet to refer to me as "miss." or, at the very least, ask my title preference, instead of assuming it.

11/5/2017 10:24:06 AM

Hello kinksters! My primary partner (27/m) and I (26/f) will be traveling quite a bit this December. Initially stopping in Moscow for a day before we head towards Delhi, where we'll spend the next 5/6 weeks traveling through North and South India. Then a week split between London and (mostly) Dublin, before heading back home. We have housing established for our stay in India and London, and working on Dublin.
I'd be interested in meeting people in these areas, for vanilla meet-ups as well as kinky ones. Suggestions to kinky or LGBTQA+ venues/locations would also be greatly appreciated!
This might be a silly question, but I've read that sex toys are outlawed in India, and I had planned on bringing my strap-on. Any suggestions on how to travel with phallus shaped toys in India would also be appreciated :3


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