My first draft of a profile for collar me has been successful. I was warned about the bedlam when a new submissive arrives on here and how things can be slightly overwhelming. My direct style profile appears to have minimised the amount of unwanted and random replies and most seem to have actually read what I wrote!
Some of the replies have made me smile and chuckle out loud, I really enjoyed the response from one couple who totally disregarded my profile text and instead let me know how they plan to use and abuse me at their convenience. I would have usually put that in the "not suitable" pile but they look like fun and I admire their cheek and confidence.
As for finding that miracle man my collar me adventure is now off the starting blocks.
I prefer to respond to things rather than to react to things. I allocate time for reading, time for thinking and time for replying so please allow for this and don't get all cranky if I don't reply to you immediately, I do hope to respond to all sensible messages in good time.
Some of the replies talk about a mixture of "vanilla" and D/s in relationships. Sure I am not seeking a 24 hour calling someone Master or Sir, and neither am I looking for total "vanilla" snapping in to D/s role plays.
I recognise the need deep within me to be submissive to a partner, the submissive side of me in some ways never turns off for that person and they will always hold more influence over me than I would otherwise allow and more than any other person. Certain areas of my life and my business are not to be played with and will be recognised as being out of bounds for any sort of game play.
The person I am during sexual contact is very different from the person I generally present to the world. I have a very sexually submissive nature, I seek to be with someone who has the ability to easily overpower me but not someone who will necessarily always want to do so.
I wouldn't want to switch because for me mentally once a man submits to me there is no going back, I assume the dominant position until I get bored and go on to find someone more dominant.
The right dominant man for me would control large aspects of me in very subtle ways, they would quickly learn my patterns and standard reactions learn to trigger their desired response. It is manipulation, but not for sinister purposes, I like to think of it as ethical manipulation. He would control my orgasms in as many ways as possible and make me do random, bizarre or inappropriate things to please him at inappropriate times which may make me feel genuinely uncomfortable at times.
This journal is not only for people to read but to help me personally establish what it is I am looking for. I may sound inexperienced in D/s or like someone who is looking for an occasional tie and tease on top of a regular relationship none of which is correct.
I spent 4 years deeply exploring my submissive side and pushed most of my boundaries in to oblivion. I moved on with other parts of my life and left it behind. 5 years since I left that part of my life and I am deeply missing something and I can't seem to find it until a dominant man spotted my confused sub syndrome and told me what I missing. Within moments I had travelled back years to the first time someone said that to me and I knew he was right.
Peace
L.T