Collarspace

I haven't been on this site in a long time but decided to return. I have been in the lifestyle for many years but I have very little experience. I do know my limits and what I like.

I am seeking a Dom male my age or older in or close to my area to get to know as both a friend and Dom. I do not mind if you have a partner already (this is more in the context of having a vanilla partner) but if they do not know you are in the lifestyle then I'm not interested, I do not believe in drama and I do not want issues down the road. No I will not serve online nor will I ever be interested my life is busy as it is.

I am a nonsexual sensualist submissive meaning I do not think that intercourse or sex of any kind should be part of the dynamic I am in and I do not like anything that would cause pain.

I am a bbw so if you are not into larger women don't bother contacting me. I do go to the gym at least 2 to 3 times a week so I do try and stay active at least even though I have a disability with permanent nerve damage to my left knee.

I am married to a vanilla husband, he knows I am in the lifestyle and approves of me seeking a Dom. Please be aware that our marriage comes first, so that means if we are to meet then on the first meeting you must meet him as well, if you are not willing to do that then it's a no go.

Likes: Bondage, sensory deprivation (no hoods, full or otherwise), wax, fire cupping, flogging (thuddy floggers), aftercare is a huge must. There are more that I might add later on.

Hard limits: Age play, role play of any kind including pet play, breath play, humiliation/degradation, blood play, medical play, anything with another female, anything illegal and sadism/masochism I have a low pain tolerance.

Being told I don't know the role of a real sub because I don't suck dick is just fucking hilarious, only a fake dom would say crazy shit like this. There are PLENTY of nonsexual subs in the lifestyle and submission means different things to different people not just the sexual aspect. This is how I can spot a fake dom a mile away when he starts talking bs like this and clearly doesn't respect limits. I also really love that 'dom' men think I'm gullable, asking me if I'm willing to meet them somewhere in their first message and neither of us knows ZERO about each other. Yeah sorry but I'm not stupid enough to just hop in my car and meet someone I know absolutely nothing about much less what they look like.

I love it when someone sends me a message after they clearly didn't read my profile, expecting me to respond but block me after sending the message, what a joke.

I really don't know how many times I have to say it. But if you are not in or even close to my area DON'T bother contacting me. It clearly shows you can't take the time to read a profile.

If you really think that my photo is fucked up then you should look at yourself. BDSM can be about sex yes but that's not what it's 100% about, there are PLENTY of people in the lifestyle who are nonsexual, many are here to learn and explore not to fuck. If you think that bdsm is alla bout sex then you're the one who's fucked up, especially if you say you do not negotiate which is a HUGE red flag.

Guess it's time to make this clear since I didn't put it in my profile. I am partly disabled with permanent nerve damage to my left knee from being hit by a car in my 20s. So messages asking stuff like if I'd ever serve as a foot stoll or mentioning being on my knees will get you cussed out and blocked.

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