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	I've been extremely quiet on her for a couple of Months now for one very good reason and that is it seems as though I have found what I have been looking for. I had been chatting to someone on here for a little while - and it took quite a bit of convincing but eventually we exchanged numbers and before long we were meeting in Central London for a few hours of walking, talking, lunch and the cinema. It was an extremely quiet film with only us at the front and a couple of people in the screening room and before long I had her down at my feet, stroking her hair and at ease watching the film together. We talked daily on the phone - with her completing tasks for me - generally over the phone. Initially she thought that this was extremely sadistic but in time she realised that she was in-fact being trained and far from punishment this represents her training and grooming to be my perfect partner. Quickly she went from declaring herself as a subbie to being a slave - and a few weeks ago she signed a contract as such - she has little or no rights as long as I meet her basic needs and she is obliged to follow my commands with good grace and the suitable level of appreciation. I will be with her tonight - she already knows that she will be hooded and dressed as a maid - her pleasure must now come indirectly through my pleasure. She has gratefully signed away her right to orgasm at any point in the future to enable her to better concentrate on my needs and pleasure. In serving me in this manner she has come to understand that she is far happier this way - with all decisions taken out of her hands - whether she's just in her collar or her cage or in a cupboard. She is most content without doubts or false choices. She has a long way to go - and she is not yet my perfect slave - she still has to pro-actively ensure that she is in the right head-space to submit willingly and I have laid out her training for her - short, medium and long-term so that she knows what is expected of her. Due to her training she has already improved leaps and bounds and as a consequence I am extremely pleased with the progress that she is making. She also understands that results are not all important - if she tries her very best at a task then I cannot and do not wish to say that she has been a bad girl or a failure in any way - it is her submission - her willing slavery that matters me. She no-longer has the option to say "no" to anything I tell her to do - but as the clichéd line goes "with great power comes great responsibility" and I very much understand my power over her and my responsibility - for example being warm with her, caring and how damaging it would be if I were fickle or inconsistent with her. So there we are - there's lots more that I am extremely happy about and proud of but perhaps that can wait for another time.

5/21/2013 6:31:06 AM

Is packing a bag for a long journey. Spending time with my slave - if she's a good girl about 7 nights or so.

I am looking forward to have my hooded maid at my feet tonight.

2/17/2013 8:33:48 AM

Has access to a silly slave girl's facebook account and have of course locked her out.. She seems happy with the arrangement for now.

1/3/2012 4:11:14 AM

Why I need chastity control

I believe I need chastity control for three main reasons

Firstly I need control in all its forms to feel safe and content, I do not really have any and I have no structure in my life. This means often making bad decisions or simply no decisions and therefore having control and a very clear physical manifestation of control such as a chastity device will give me something to focus on. I know that the person having control of the belt will ultimately control me and my behaviours and I need this very much.

Secondly I deal with my sexual needs whenever I see fit, this can be several times a day and can very much be a distraction to the things I need to do and should be doing, A chastity device would prevent me from engaging in such behaviour and would help me focus on tasks etc. It would also mean that once released from the belt everything will be much more intense

Thirdly being sexually frustrated and knowing I have no release other than by your hand would make me very submissive and dependent on you and I know this is where I should be. It would ensure that I behaved well and would do my upmost to avoid the punishment of denial of release. Any sexual activities would be reserved for the time we were together and would be entirely as you choose it to be. Wearing the belt would also ensure my absolute loyalty as pointed out, what good would I be to anyone else, it is also a clear statement of ownership. I would be reminded of my place constantly, every time I moved I would be reminded. I need this reminder as I have a tendency to forget things when it suits me.

12/6/2011 3:44:41 AM

A lovely message I got from a sub on this site.

Hello Sir, I hope you have enjoyed your evening.

Firstly, I want to say that I have not found any as pretty and appealing as the pair you have showing in your picture Sir - which is disappointing - yours are beautifully crafted which appeals to my nature.

Anyway on with my assignment, I will start with these the leather chastity briefs http://www.uberkinky.co.uk/pd/Leather-Female-Chastity-Briefs_81249.html

they appealed to me on a few different fronts - one they look to be super discreet, form fitting and comfortable (perhaps not the traits you are keenest on Sir, but a step for me in the right direction perhaps). The chain appeals I have been fantasising about how it would feel between my pussy lips Sir. But I wonder if these are the easy option too and perhaps I'm not being brave enough - they are almost too visual and not very practical at keeping me chaste. But they are on offer, and the site name also tickled my fancy.

Next I would like to share with you are these Boutique Deluxe Leather Female Chastity Belt with Cuffs and Butt Plug

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15754

More utilitarian looking than the first pair, but the variety of these appeal to me somewhat, with or without cuff restraints and a butt plug (perhaps for if I have been particularly naughty and need to be teased with the thought of what I am missing all day) The price seems cheap which may mean the quality is somewhat lacking, but the sight of that padlock right between the thighs, and the thought of that on me with you having the key, oh Sir it makes me want to play with my pussy but I know I mustn't until I have completed my assignment...

Not the most discreet from the selection to wear under a skirt, and extended wear would require a key access to shower and toilet hygienically.

The third I want to share with you is much more up the quality and expense scale...

http://www.censory.co.uk/leather-female-chastity-belt.html

The attached collar attracted my attention somewhat and is an appealing feature in my eyes, but it means it is more of a bedroom rather than work environment chastity belt, and the price seems excessive when such beauty will not be seen by the wider world Sir.

The fourth is the one you shared with me Sir.

http://www.bondara.co.uk/ultimate-female-chastity-belt

I can now appreciate the cleanliness you commented on, and the practicality for longer wears, with the two openings. The metal concerns me somewhat from the point of comfort - despite having noted the rubber edging... and whilst not as expensive as the last one, it is still as I said earlier a fair chunk of money (for me, if not for you) when I am only just starting out and experimenting with all sorts of playing including being chaste for my dom. Also it doesn't look like it fits as snuggly to the waist as some leather ones might - so I wonder how discreet it would be under certain clothes Sir.

The fifth, I wish to share with you Sir, is a very inexpensive version - but perhaps appeals to me as a beginner.

http://www.bondara.co.uk/leather-female-chastity-belt

It is simple and no nonsense Sir, with a pvc lining for cleanliness - I would need a key for showering and toilet purposes if I were to wear it for any length of time. So I can also see it's fallacies - defeating the object of the exercise somewhat. But I would be a good girl and behave no matter how tempted I was, I would respect my doms wishes and even if I had a key I would not cheat without permission Sir.

Which I would choose, I still have no idea, but I hope I have earned the right to orgasm properly and enjoy it Sir.

Thank you