Like most on here I've been looking for a long time and hope to someday find the right one.? Till then meeting new people and playing when it?s right.

What I'm looking for and what I'm NOT

Someone that is looking for a final mate.? I don't expect her to drop everything and move in tomorrow, but after time and trial WE feel right able to make the commitment.

Till then a long term friend with benefits, maybe married and can't/doesn't want to leave but needs a master.

She needs to respect herself and realize she has a lot to offer.

She can't be so far away that we can't see each other in person.? Up to five hours away is ok.

She needs a vanilla life.? In private we'll probably be lifestyle but she has to be able to survive in the real world.

She could even be a switch (but not with me), how it would work I don't know but I know if she is right it will work.

Someone that is willing to have conversation so we can learn about each other.? After a few emails the phone then public meeting.? I find being able to hear and see a person provides for better communication.? Communication is what makes this lifestyle work along with trust.

Someone willing to talk about their experience and desires of the lifestyle besides the vanilla part.? I answer enough questions about my favorite color on eharmony.? Yes I look everywhere :)

About me:

I will always be polite when I write to you.? In my mind I don't own you nor am I your dominant or master till I/we decide.? Those that reply back even if not interested always get a nice reply back.? I believe in the carrot also and think if they know I appreciated that they will treat others the same way even though they have to deal with a lot jerks.? One of my little ways to try to make the world a better place.

I don't pay much attention to slave/submissive/switch or labels.? I've found everyone has their own ideas as to what each entails so it?s more important to me as what you need or want in relationship.

I like to play both physical and mental but I also enjoy the partner aspect of mutual support.

I don't believe I am one to have a poly family of 5+ slaves.? I just don't see how anyone has time for that and don't expect my partner to be bait.

I like to get to know you and this makes life difficult.? It seems anytime someone new comes into the lifestyle every Dom and wannabe is hounding them or having their slave/sub trying to recruit them.? I can move fast but just to grab and then decide if you want doesn't seem smart or right.

I'm not a picture collector and a face picture with a great smile tells me a lot.?

Physically myself I am NOT the before picture nor am I the after picture but closer to the after.

If you receive an email from me it won't be a one liner, but it won't be a book either.? You will probably find a request to get to know you and you me.??Will send a G picture as we get to know one another.

Hope to hear from some of you and good luck in all of your searches