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Hetero Female Submissive, 45,  Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
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Ok a little bit about me. Im known in the lifestyle as LV a very long story maybe Il tell you one day Im 45 years old, divorced, one grown up child who has flown the nest.
Ive been in the lifestyle for about 7 or 8 years and during that time ive had two serious D/s relationships and was collared in one. ? Im a bubbly person, who can be feisty, I love a good laugh, though can be reserved at times. I have a sensitive nature but I hate confrontation but I can also be assertive when I need to be. I like to enjoy life to the full and don?t let some minor health issues get in the way, I just find ways round it. ? I love music, dancing, theatre, languages, outdoors, nature, psychology, cultures, cuisine, homeopathy, socialising, reading, attending local munch and going to fetish clubs (vanilla clubs have no interest to me as in general they are nothing more than meat markets). I enjoy swimming, scuba diving, travel., good wine in particular red. I detest, bad manners, poor personal hygiene, rudness, shouting, ignorance, people who think there kink is better than yours. People that don?t listen and people automatically making assumptions. ? On the D/s side I am most definitely a spanky, I enjoy
CP, though definitely prefer thicker canes. Im also a rope slut I absolutely adore Shibari and all aspects of bondage. I also love the sensual side of D/s, and most importantly a Dom who can stimulate my mind. ? When it comes to a partner im looking for that combination of Dom. Gentleman, partner, lover and friend. ? There is a Domme part to me also, however I do not Switch and am not looking for a Switch. I seek someone who is Dom only.?I still Domme occasionally but more as and when the moment takes me. ? Please note that im a smoker and am only interested in single Doms.











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 Submissive Female


 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 1"






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Male

 Lives For:

 Bondage (Expert)

 Massage (Getting) (Expert)

 Shibari  (Expert)

 Spanking (Expert)

 Classical Music



 Coffee Shops  (Expert)

 Fine Dining (Expert)





 Horseback Riding (Beginner)

 Scuba Diving (Beginner)


 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Breast Play

 Canes and Crops



 Electrical Play (Expert)


 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Massage (Giving) (Expert)

 Outdoor Bondage

 Plastic Wrap


 Vibrators (Expert)

 Science Fiction


 Cooking (Expert)

 Photography (Beginner)


 Biology (Expert)




 Renaissance Faires


 Local BDSM Community (Expert)


 Knife Play

 Medical Play


 Public Play  (Expert)



 Comedy Shows

 Alternative Medicine







 Heavy Metal Music

 Opera Music



 Curious About:

 Gorean Lifestyle



 Hard Limits:



 Domestic Service



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Journal Entries:
2/7/2013 3:43:24 PM
im pleased to say the drunken scum who wrote off my car is being taken too court this month. unfortunately they cant charge him for drink driving as he hid from the police so wasnt breathalysed. however he is being charged with leaving the scene of the accident. im still out of pocket. But at least im getting some justice which is more important

11/23/2012 4:33:47 PM

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh bliss, home from work, nice glass of red and the best thing is, after 12 cold winters in my flat, i finally have a warm home.


Whilst sorting out the car I decided to battle up against my housing association.  One sympathetic electrician later and one state of the art heater.  No more shivering the winter away total and utter bliss.

10/20/2012 4:19:33 AM

Well it would appear that my five hours on the phone being assertive with the insurance companies have paid off.

I know have a hire car and can work again, and they are going to pay all my out of pocket expenses.

Now just to get the cheque off them and get another car. Thank fully i have a dear friend on the scene who work in the auto trade who is going to help and advise me about what car to get.

Will be glad when this is all over.

10/8/2012 2:30:28 AM

Feeling seriously hacked off today.  Last night whilst out working a hit and run driver smashed into my car. (luckily i wasnt in the car at the time).  He dumped his car a legged it (coward).

Whilst on the phone to the police I saw him return to his car and try to drive it off, which he failed to do as the car was undrivable, I approached him and was able to give the police a full description, I later identified him from a photo.  When he got out of the car I challenged him and the coward all 6 ft 2 of him (im 5ft one), ran off.

Im now left with no car, cant work until the insurance sorts thing out and I get a hire car. 


No work equals no pay, it gauls me at the injustice of this, I work long and hard hours to keep my head above water and because of this coward im loosing money i cant afford.


The only positive I can take from this is he hit my car and not a person.

1/21/2012 2:55:46 AM

Well life certainly seems to be getting more positive for me.


Contract has now been extended, health is improving.  Im off tonight for a joint fetish birthday party of two friends, so will be catching up with lots of lovley pips i havent seen for a time.


Then im mentioned in someones journey for my courteous reply, :), nice to know there are decent peeps on here.


Now just to work out what im going to wear tonight.

7/3/2011 3:20:14 PM

What a manic week ive had, first i had to get my car through its MOT, £230 quid later she passed.  Phew I thought thats that for another year, then blow me the day before my car tax is due the starter motor went another £200 plus, to get that sorted.  Have a feeling, il be eating a lot of bake beans on toast lol for the next month lol.


Then I had to rush my grandchild to Accident and Emergency after a nasty fall at the local playground, thankfully it was just muscular and bruising nothing broken.  Followed by a 3am phone call from my daughter whos car had broken down on a dark motorway somewhere in belgium.


Fingers crossed it will be a slightly less stressfull week.

7/3/2011 3:14:25 PM

Thank you all for your kind messages of support regarding me being made redundant.

Ive still not managed to find that elusive permanent job, particularly as they are making vast cutbacks in my particular line of work. I have however been able to find a temping job.


Ok it pays half per hour what I used to earn, which does mean im working all the hours gods sends, but on a plus note im just about keeping my head above water.


Thank you again for your kind words.

1/23/2011 11:33:51 AM

Im struggeling today.  In 5 days time im out of my job, joys of redundancy.


Ive managed to find temporary work to tide me over but its going to mean working 60 hours minimum per week just to keep my head above water.


Ive managed to be strong most of the time, specing out my cv, trawling through job sites and papers.  Uploading my cv.  Making sure ive stocked up on basics at home for the lean times.


But today im feeling so so tired, ive worked hard my entire life, ive never been a free loader, it just seems so unfair


What i would give to have strong pair of arms holding me tight and secure, helping me to continue to find the strength to get through this.



12/1/2010 1:18:45 PM

Im very proud of myself today.  I managed to face and conquer my fear and finally registered and went to the dentist.

 Was helped by the fact that the dentist was really good and reassuring, discusing my phobia and what had triggered it.  Talking me through everything she was doing, apologising for the minor discomfort she caused, and forwarning me that it would be slightly painful.

 Then blow me transpires the dental nurse and i both go to the same pagan gathering, like recognises like. 

 The experience was certainly one that i had not imagined and i came out feel reassured that i had a good dentist and would be safe in her hands.


Now i cant wait to have my teeth back in tip top shape.



12/1/2010 1:11:49 PM
Does any one know why collar keeps you online if you for example forget to log off before turning your computer off.  Any other site i know logs you off if you turn of the computer

11/6/2010 10:53:53 AM

Fed up today, was too poorly to go to school, missed out on all the fun

9/6/2010 6:09:03 AM
Ok I admit it im a lady with a big hippy streak running all the way through her.

Would be great to know if there are any dominants here who are the same and enjoy an alternative spirituality and view on life.

9/5/2010 10:05:00 PM
Had a fantastic weekend at Mercian, meeting new friends and old.

Was proud of myself again this year, dealing yet another stage with my phobia of fire.

I love fires but have always had a great fear of them also.

Last year i got the courage to jump over the burning wicka man.

This year after hearing a very inspirational story from a lady with a beautiful soul, of how her young son had been traumatised over an incident with fire and now with her encouragement had jumped the wicka man.  It gave me strength so this year i didnt jump but walked through the small flames and ashes.

It may not sound much to some but to me it was another step to a fear conquered and was very liberating.

The lady whose son i spoke of ealrier, gave me one of the best hugs ive had in a long time the energy exchanged between us was fantastic, i thanked her for sharing her story with  and how it had inspired me to go the next stepl

All in all yet again a fantastic event, and great way to welcome the harvest in.

I love it as this festival, you can let down your guards, re open your chakras,  be freely who you are as a person and in your spirituality, and no one bats an eyelid, in fact you find people of similar wavelength who in fact enjoy your eclectic personality and see it as a positivity making you a more rounded individual.

I wish the festival could have gone on longer, was so good to be celebrating aournd people where my chakras could be open

It was so funny watching our local vicking group, they take pride in ensuring safety whilst they fight, but they also have on healthy sense of humour and banter whcih made wtching the batales even more.

I loved the songs and stories told round the sacred fire, I maid my offering of tobacco to grandfather fire.

Then there was the yummy hot tub, never seem to manage to keep my waiset length hair dry so was really please the saturday night that the weather was milder.  was good to spend a few hours in there , chilling with friends, relaxing.

for me the weekend just went so fast, seem only seconds before we where there and now time to gol.  time can be a very cruel whern you are having a great time hours become seconds, yet doing something boring hourse seem to last days.

Any of those on here who attanded the mercian event, it was my full hearted pleasrue to have met you all.  And cant wait for next years ones.

I find when im there it gives me the strenght to  follow more things through, im finding I ding I can be assersitve without being rude.

what ever happens at this event means I always come back with a feeling of great joy and anticipation.

8/24/2010 1:44:22 PM
Please accept my apologies for not currently replying to memos.  I have had recurring migraines since last thurday.  As soon as this clears i will reply to all.

7/26/2010 10:36:09 AM
Went to my first ever LARP event at the weekend.  Some friends of mine who are regular larpers had told me about it and it sounded like it could be fun.

I had no idea whether or not I was going into enjoy it, but went with an open mind.  On the first evening i stepped back, watched and observed, soaking it all in. Saturday I began to be more IC by SUnday i was fully IC except on the odd occasion where OOC was necessary.

Im already working out new costumes for the next event and starting to think more about my charachter whilst in downtime.

Cant wait for the next one

7/26/2010 9:56:19 AM

Im often asked about the origins of my name so here goes.

Originally it was Petite Madame Vilain (little lady naughty).

I found most mispronounced the vilain, so i then spelt is phoenetically villen, this brought even more problems as many then read my name as Madam Evillen.

To try and rectify any confusion i changed it to Mademoiselle, this itself brought more problems as many found it difficult to pronounce and too much of a mouthfull.

So i then changed it to Lady Villen.

As I am both sub and Domme I decided I needed a name for the mainly submissive part of me and one for the Domme in me.

So Lady Villen remained the Domme name and Little Lady Villen the sub name.

6/24/2010 1:18:33 PM
Just to clarify, yes they are pictures of me and the main photograph was taken this month.

6/14/2010 12:56:00 PM

Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. Trust is the ingredient for a healthy relationship. In any kind of relationship trust is a treasure that is hard to gain but easy to lose.

The five core elements I think are needed to build trust:


Keep your word

Your word has to be as valuable and unbreakable as diamond. If you make a promise, you keep it. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Your word is one of your greatest assets. Please, use it wisely. Why? Because they can count on you, they know how important it is for you to keep your promises. They trust you because they know that your word is worth to you more than a fortune.

Be transparent

However, to be truthful is not just to not lie and to keep your promises, it’s also to be transparent with the other person. You have to be yourself, showing who you really are with no deception or tricks. Avoid artificial roles or actions. If people realize that you aren’t being yourself they will distrust you. Regarding trust, natural prevails over unnatural. So, be sincere and talk with your own voice.


Persistent people who work hard and keep their promises are respected, valued and trusted. Who keep working towards their goals despite the obstacles, difficulties or discouragement will get rewarded for it. Hence, if you want to build trust you need to be persistent and consistent with your actions.


Being honest, decent, respectable, loyal and fair with others build trust. On the contrary, a dishonest person, who only cares about his own interests, inspires distrust and suspicion.

How to build integrity:
• Act fairly.
• Act upon your moral and ethical principles and not just upon material interests.


The reputation and credibility is given by others. You just can’t give yourself a good reputation. That status is given by others, but it takes a long time and effort to gain recognition for your work. You simply can’t attain overnight recognition. Show that you are reliable, honest and trustworthy doing what you said you would do. Another good way to build reputation is doing things for others and treating them respectfully and fairly.


Anyone who comes in contact with you has an expectation of what will happen. If you satisfy that expectation you build trust. If you exceed all expectations you win admiration and, of course, you build trust and credibility. Trust depends on keeping commitments. But the key here is to satisfy that expectation over and over again, day after day, year after year, and so on. The more times you meet other people’s expectation on you, the greater the trust you will get from them. Trust is hard to gain but easy to lose. It may take a long time until the other person trusts you, but it just takes one misstep to ruin a good reputation.

These words are not my own, but they articulate my belief on what trust is.
Many thanks to Satyr Silenus for allowing me to copy them.

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