ahhhhhhhhhhhhh bliss, home from work, nice glass of red and the best thing is, after 12 cold winters in my flat, i finally have a warm home.

Whilst sorting out the car I decided to battle up against my housing association.  One sympathetic electrician later and one state of the art heater.  No more shivering the winter away total and utter bliss.

Well it would appear that my five hours on the phone being assertive with the insurance companies have paid off.

I know have a hire car and can work again, and they are going to pay all my out of pocket expenses.

Now just to get the cheque off them and get another car. Thank fully i have a dear friend on the scene who work in the auto trade who is going to help and advise me about what car to get.

Will be glad when this is all over.

Feeling seriously hacked off today.  Last night whilst out working a hit and run driver smashed into my car. (luckily i wasnt in the car at the time).  He dumped his car a legged it (coward).

Whilst on the phone to the police I saw him return to his car and try to drive it off, which he failed to do as the car was undrivable, I approached him and was able to give the police a full description, I later identified him from a photo.  When he got out of the car I challenged him and the coward all 6 ft 2 of him (im 5ft one), ran off.

Im now left with no car, cant work until the insurance sorts thing out and I get a hire car. 

No work equals no pay, it gauls me at the injustice of this, I work long and hard hours to keep my head above water and because of this coward im loosing money i cant afford.

The only positive I can take from this is he hit my car and not a person.

Well life certainly seems to be getting more positive for me.

Contract has now been extended, health is improving.  Im off tonight for a joint fetish birthday party of two friends, so will be catching up with lots of lovley pips i havent seen for a time.

Then im mentioned in someones journey for my courteous reply, :), nice to know there are decent peeps on here.

Now just to work out what im going to wear tonight.

What a manic week ive had, first i had to get my car through its MOT, £230 quid later she passed.  Phew I thought thats that for another year, then blow me the day before my car tax is due the starter motor went another £200 plus, to get that sorted.  Have a feeling, il be eating a lot of bake beans on toast lol for the next month lol.

Then I had to rush my grandchild to Accident and Emergency after a nasty fall at the local playground, thankfully it was just muscular and bruising nothing broken.  Followed by a 3am phone call from my daughter whos car had broken down on a dark motorway somewhere in belgium.

Fingers crossed it will be a slightly less stressfull week.

Thank you all for your kind messages of support regarding me being made redundant.

Ive still not managed to find that elusive permanent job, particularly as they are making vast cutbacks in my particular line of work. I have however been able to find a temping job.

Ok it pays half per hour what I used to earn, which does mean im working all the hours gods sends, but on a plus note im just about keeping my head above water.

Thank you again for your kind words.

Im struggeling today.  In 5 days time im out of my job, joys of redundancy.

Ive managed to find temporary work to tide me over but its going to mean working 60 hours minimum per week just to keep my head above water.

Ive managed to be strong most of the time, specing out my cv, trawling through job sites and papers.  Uploading my cv.  Making sure ive stocked up on basics at home for the lean times.

But today im feeling so so tired, ive worked hard my entire life, ive never been a free loader, it just seems so unfair

What i would give to have strong pair of arms holding me tight and secure, helping me to continue to find the strength to get through this.

Im very proud of myself today.  I managed to face and conquer my fear and finally registered and went to the dentist.

 Was helped by the fact that the dentist was really good and reassuring, discusing my phobia and what had triggered it.  Talking me through everything she was doing, apologising for the minor discomfort she caused, and forwarning me that it would be slightly painful.

 Then blow me transpires the dental nurse and i both go to the same pagan gathering, like recognises like. 

 The experience was certainly one that i had not imagined and i came out feel reassured that i had a good dentist and would be safe in her hands.

Now i cant wait to have my teeth back in tip top shape.

Fed up today, was too poorly to go to school, missed out on all the fun

Im often asked about the origins of my name so here goes.

Originally it was Petite Madame Vilain (little lady naughty).

I found most mispronounced the vilain, so i then spelt is phoenetically villen, this brought even more problems as many then read my name as Madam Evillen.

To try and rectify any confusion i changed it to Mademoiselle, this itself brought more problems as many found it difficult to pronounce and too much of a mouthfull.

So i then changed it to Lady Villen.

As I am both sub and Domme I decided I needed a name for the mainly submissive part of me and one for the Domme in me.

So Lady Villen remained the Domme name and Little Lady Villen the sub name.

The five core elements I think are needed to build trust:

Truth

Keep your word

Your word has to be as valuable and unbreakable as diamond. If you make a promise, you keep it. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Your word is one of your greatest assets. Please, use it wisely. Why? Because they can count on you, they know how important it is for you to keep your promises. They trust you because they know that your word is worth to you more than a fortune.

Be transparent

However, to be truthful is not just to not lie and to keep your promises, it’s also to be transparent with the other person. You have to be yourself, showing who you really are with no deception or tricks. Avoid artificial roles or actions. If people realize that you aren’t being yourself they will distrust you. Regarding trust, natural prevails over unnatural. So, be sincere and talk with your own voice.

Perseverance

Persistent people who work hard and keep their promises are respected, valued and trusted. Who keep working towards their goals despite the obstacles, difficulties or discouragement will get rewarded for it. Hence, if you want to build trust you need to be persistent and consistent with your actions.

Integrity

Being honest, decent, respectable, loyal and fair with others build trust. On the contrary, a dishonest person, who only cares about his own interests, inspires distrust and suspicion.

How to build integrity:
• Act fairly.
• Act upon your moral and ethical principles and not just upon material interests.

Reputation

The reputation and credibility is given by others. You just can’t give yourself a good reputation. That status is given by others, but it takes a long time and effort to gain recognition for your work. You simply can’t attain overnight recognition. Show that you are reliable, honest and trustworthy doing what you said you would do. Another good way to build reputation is doing things for others and treating them respectfully and fairly.

Satisfaction

Anyone who comes in contact with you has an expectation of what will happen. If you satisfy that expectation you build trust. If you exceed all expectations you win admiration and, of course, you build trust and credibility. Trust depends on keeping commitments. But the key here is to satisfy that expectation over and over again, day after day, year after year, and so on. The more times you meet other people’s expectation on you, the greater the trust you will get from them. Trust is hard to gain but easy to lose. It may take a long time until the other person trusts you, but it just takes one misstep to ruin a good reputation.

These words are not my own, but they articulate my belief on what trust is.
Many thanks to Satyr Silenus for allowing me to copy them.