I want a long term, monogamous relationship. I’m not desperate. I’m not rushing into anything. I just know what I want, who I am and what I believe. I believe this can all change over time.
I believe your mate/spouse should be your confidante, best friend, lover, cheerleader, encourager and comforter. I believe in being forthright and straightforward.
I don't believe in playing games or topping from the bottom or being mischievous for negative reasons (only for fun ones :)
I believe the chances of finding the perfect match for me in mind, body, and soul are minute, so the more I can up my odds the better my chances, which is why I’m here. I believe that life is meant to be shared and a life not shared is a life not fully fulfilled.
I believe that to be able to know and trust someone else completely, you first have to know and trust yourself completely. I believe that to be able to control another, you must be able to control yourself. To be able to submit to another, you have to have complete trust and that kind of trust has to be earned in a very special, unique way.

I believe that sexuality is a spectrum. Some people move along the spectrum more than others. I believe the same thing about submissives and slaves – that it’s a continuum. Some people are definitively either or and some fall somewhere in the middle. I think I fall somewhere in the middle and sometimes fluctuate to one end or the other.
I believe the bond in a strong D/s relationship is very special and different than a non D/s relationship. I believe that love is shown in a variety of ways, and not always with flowers, chocolates, or jewelry.
I believe that sex and intimacy are two different things and both are equally important. I think at first they need to go together to build a solid foundation, but then can be separated for fun! I also believe that if you rush into either too soon it can be damaging but it can also be just as damaging if you wait too long. It takes a keen person to know when it’s just right. Also, I believe that overall, a 2^nd or 3^rd meeting is usually way too soon, much less an initial chat on the internet. However, in meeting someone in a D/s context, you want to know that you have compatible interests in very sensitive areas. I believe that area has to be treaded carefully and in a timely manner (which is not usually right away).
I believe that objectification and degradation are fun in play, but not to live out 24/7. They become mentally and emotionally damaging over time and can destroy self respect and self esteem.
I believe that rules can be freeing and restricting. I believe that someone who loves you and wants to collar you allows you the freedom to be yourself and have your own personality.
I believe body art is sexy. I believe that I am beautiful. I believe that even though I’m overweight now, I won’t always be. I’m working as hard as I can to change that and treating the issues that cause it. I believe that someone who loves me will not care because I’m not lazy and apathetic about it. My health is very important to me. I believe in being the best version of myself that I can be. I believe that is one of the best ways to honor and serve a Master/Dominant that you love…. Be someone that He can be proud of.
I believe in Jesus, God, heaven and hell. I believe that every person has a right to believe what they want and I don't mind if you have a different belief system than me. I respect people who are thinkers and even if they don’t have it all figured out, are trying.
I believe I was created just as I’m supposed to be and have no qualms or problems reconciling my beliefs with my sexuality.

I value open-mindedness, wit, sarcasm and overall cleverness.
I love culture and want to learn about and experience as many different cultures as possible.
I don’t believe in an instant “spark” of chemistry. There can be an initial immediate attraction, but I don’t believe that means anything or amounts to a hill of beans. My analogy is this: a match has an instant spark, right? That spark burns out very quickly and if you hold on too long, you burn your fingers. A long, strong and fiercely burning fire takes a lot of time and effort to start. Once it’s started, it keeps burning as long as it is tended to carefully... the spark is still there, but it takes longer to make itself known. It lasts longer and provides more than just a match. Also, you don’t get burned by trying to keep it burning. You get warmth and long-term pleasure and happiness.
Granted, sometimes these things start with that spark (and in reality, fires often start with matches), but in terms of relationships, those don't always work out in terms of long-term compatibility.
If I meet someone and we get along and have a nice time, I’m going to want to see them again, no expectations, no pressure. I don’t expect to know whether I want to be in a relationship with someone after the first couple of meetings; that kind of thing takes time. I want to get to know them and then we can talk about it and figure it out together.
I don’t believe that you can fully know someone without ever meeting them in person. Words can be manipulated easily and context is lost easily with no eye contact or body language to complete the communication.
I don’t believe that money is the answer to everything or can bring happiness. It’s needed to provide food, shelter, and entertainment. I’m not turned on or impressed by money or fancy things. I’m more impressed by someone’s character, motives, motivations, passions, and personality. I don’t believe that you can judge people (or anything) solely by what they look like.
I want to marry my Dominant and be the best wife ever. I want to bear His children and be the best mother ever. I believe that is one of the best gifts that I can give. I think. I like to think. I like to imagine hypothetical situations and play them out in my head. I read. I question everything. It led to a loss of faith for a long time.
I ask “What if…” a lot. I like hot air balloons. I have 3 tattoos. I like red cars. I do my best thinking right before I fall asleep. I read. I sometimes write. I like art. I like indie music. I like mainstream music. I like dorky, nerdy humor. I like dry, sarcastic humor. I like silly humor. I have a sense of humor. I like picnics and enjoying nature. I like cats. I like dogs. I like turtles. I love giraffes, they remind me of myself… clumsy and awkward but functional. I love my job and sometimes it comes home with me. I've spent a long time thinking about all of this. I believe you should send me a message if you made it all the way to the end :)