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leaAnn

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Right off the top I'm not very femme, androgynous, fetish, lingerie.

I am top. I don't call myself Dom(me), it doesn't suit me, I'm just not that religious about it. I look for a switch situation, the thought intrigues me, but have yet to find the one who will or can.

I have been fascinated by the thoughts of bondage, humiliation and mild lingering pain as long as I can remember. Either being restrained or restraining someone else. I had never and have yet to fulfill this fascination in real life. Until several years ago when I first came online I didn't even know there was a lifestyle much less anyone else with the same bent. While I have had a tendency to crossdress as long as I can remember it has only truly manifested since coming online and finding this lifestyle. I am not trans gender or transsexual. I don't want to become or live as a woman. Wearing lingerie is all just fetish for me. It adds to extra stimulation. I don't go out dressed. While I have kept leaAnn closeted for many years, I have just recently come out within a discrete relationship and with some close trusted friends. In the 70s I was single and hetro sexually active, very active. I have been in three monogomous relationships since 1980. I am now in a vanilla, a very vanilla, marriage. While this relationship is in so many ways ideal, I have been virtually celibate for several years. As such we have come to an implicit understanding of the need for discrete extra martial liaison. I'm not into a lifestyle. I'm not 24/7. I'm not Dom or sub. I am put off by anything that smacks of ritual. I am assertive by nature, but have found a great deal of stimulation in the thought of being topped, to lose my control. At the same time I can revel being in control. I am creative by nature and by practice. Often asked is about me being bisexual, comes with the lingerie I suppose. Truth is I don't find men at all attractive. A lez friend says that's only because I haven't fond a pretty enough one yet. Made me think I do find the concept attractive just not the men. It has set up some images in my libido, but would probably be a hard nut to crack, possibly with a couple. There's also a possibility with a true transsexual: a phallic femme.



Note or update: the celibacy has ended, tho still casts a legacy of restraint.

but yah here I am again .. .. .. at least until May



A discrete part time, but possibly long term relationship with a single or married woman, a couple or possibly a group. I have fantasized about being dommed by a lez couple, but also realize the near futility in those thoughts. A pre-op transsexual: phallic femme fatale. Not men, not really; Although I'm not totally inflexable, but it would have to be something extraordinary.
I prefer real life. I'm in the Northeast, USA  near Albany . I don't want to cyber. Don't really like it. Although I have had some interesting online relationships involving digital cameras and photo exchanges and I now have a web cam.

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jenwaite
 
 Age: 49
 Braintree., Massachusetts