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| I'm the dominant in a LTR, married to a lovely and pleasing submissive woman. We started into the lifestyle many years ago for a variety of reasons, none of which are relevant today. And, we exited years ago, my choice, based on how we both had changed over time and required different things from each other and our friends. Or, maybe it was just growing up and growing old. Looking back it was a good decision, my thinking on D/s was not right.
The break has been 7 or 8 years, she'll know the exact length of time. She periodically has reminded me that she missed parts of that life. And I have missed parts too. Looking back at my mistakes, and hers, she's implicit here with wanting things that were definitely negative and bad for her. We had a very open marriage with her very active with other Dominants and submissives, with my support. I played too. At the time there was no holding her back. Some of the Doms were over the top IMHO, but she was of a different mind.
Now we’re older and wiser. She’s loosened up after a very dramatic conversion to “born again” Christian years ago. That and the years have solidified our monogamous and straight relationship. I love her dearly and will forever.
I'm starting back into a differently defined D/s relationship with her. I still have an extensive collection of bondage and BDSM equipment, but they'll have a completely different effect than they did when we were actively scene-ing years ago. Her head’s in a different spot, but still very obedient and dedicated. I just can’t get my head into plain vanilla and am planning to revisit this life style with her. She doesn’t want other sex partners, which is okay with me. My initial plans are leaning towards several bondage scenes we did years ago and a certain amount of public showing of her beautiful attributes to select likeminded people. She always was a show off and I’ll be encouraging that in her now as we revisit D/s.
So slow going little steps. Let me know if you have any suggestions.
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