ladyRedAss59

what a Dom is(imho)  and in no particular order

someone you have something in common with besides kink

understands  your thoughts, fears, goals, past

has many of the same kinks as you, but willing to let you explore your sexual interests

puts their sub above everyone, even themself

has laid out the rules, but knows at times there are exceptions and allows negations

talks about the rule broken and explains why you will be punished

is consistent with rules

NEVER punishes in anger

is proud of their sub 

does not point out "flaws" they already are well aware of, to gain an ego trip

looks after her health, mental and physical

knows her well enough to know if something is bothering her, and gently finds out what

protaspects her at all times

is in charge without micromanaging

is kind & caring

expaspects a sub to "know her place" 

will never put the sub in danger during play

provides aftercare

understands some subs need alone time

understands submission is a gift, not a right

is human, and will make mistakes, but owns up to them, and is not afraid to apologize

trusts their sub, to allow privacy with email, phone texts, text messages, etc.

grows with their sub

Feeling like I dodged a bullet. 

So if me telling you about my past, my daily happenings makes you feel like I am looking to be rescued. Think again. I consider it getting to know what make a person tick, 

Mentioning an allergy attack be seen as negatively?  Ok.

So, stay on your armored horse.

i dont need to deal with an ego that big.

I don't need an ego as big as that.

So today's asshole of the day wins the pize for this opening message. 

Do you masturbate often and with enthusiasm?

Really??

Then he proceeded in calling me a moron for calling him out on it.   

Another troll meets the blocked bin.

How is it one song can bring you to tears??

When you have weeded out the liars, and narcissists.. the Sirs get slim...

Beware of those who win your trust.  So tired of liars. and when you call them on it.. they get offened? 

About to give up finding and serving a Sir, and just living the winter of my life alone.

It is sad how many Sirs are in loveless,sexless marriages.. 

Who are looking for a discreet relationship, where His sub will be the only one.

REALLY??

If your marriage is that bad, end it..

STOP LYING to yourself, and your wife.

i hope this posts..

this is what i am seeking...

https://youtube.com/shorts/KBncJTseARg?si=G_7A-fOuj_V5yC2U

For Any who may give a flying fuck. i am taking a major break.. been told too many thiings by too many People, most of which contridicts each other.. 

So over the games, even by those i have trusted..way too much.. 

Maybe it is time to just give up on finding One to live out the time i have left. and have fun doing it.. Settle into grannyhood and rocking chair. 

What i seek:

A new low for a first contact greeting...

This is why i was taking a break... read from the bottom up.. the top was my reply..  So very tired of BS messages like this.. one would think at 60 plus years a man would know that shit doest fly.

Taking a break.. to much  BS  from too Many.. 

May You find What You deserve.

I know I deserve  more.

If You don't like the was I look, why did YOU message me, wanting to know about me?  Then when I said I was NOT a slave, come back and criticize my body!!

This from a 6ft.1in.  270 POUND  man??

If  You cant deal with how long it takes me to trust,, i am sorry, but please move on.

Dont tell me i am fake, i am as real as they come!

If You dont want rAL LIFE, move on i am not interested in on line play.

i am in the Fall or wWinter of my life. i do not want to spend these last year alone, but i will not spend them with One who calls me fake or does not understand my trust issues, even just to talk on the phone after a few chats on here. 

Dont look down on me if i do come to trust You, then question something You may do, i am trying so hard to trust again. 

i am trying to put my past behind me, so very hard. Finding out a 20 year marriage was a total lie, takes time.. 

i am out here.. i am looking, i believe the right Sir is here someplace..

Feeling frusterated, CS screws up, i get blamed..

i didnt reply. 

YES. i did..

3 or more times,

"Message was sent"

but message was not received..

everyone goes poof at the same time??

i did not sign up for this kind of BS.

just saying...

i am a curvy woman, i am fine with my weight. i am proportioned. 

If YOU can't deal with a number, dont bother to message me.

If You think humiliating me about it is fun and games... think again.. You have the wrong sub.

How to know you really are alone, look on line on any major holiday..

Merry Christmas to all, and to all, Good night

Another axample of how to get blocked SMH...

Not a very "nice" first message

Just amazing how people just disappear when one tells the truth.

FFS... Seriously?????

Funny how over a weekend, you can see who is in a relationship (aka married)

Waiting for my profile to update for it to become active.. UGH

i have had many ask me to tell Them "my story"   so here it is...

i am looking for a long term Ds relationship. Not marriage, but a committed relationship. Honesty is the most important thing to me. i want to love, serve, respect my D. i want to support everything He does. BUT, also to be His best friend, His companion, His lover, His slut.

i am brutally honest, and very open, i believe i have a lot to offer the right One i am kind, caring, devoted, smart funny.. which can lead to SAM comments   (SAM = Smart Ass Machochist)

i have been called a natural sub, by more than a few Doms on Fet Life where i have the same ID.

i do come with baggage from my 23 year relationship with my ex, divorced the last 3.

 (he is a narcissist, cheated, stole, gaslit, lied and possibly tried to kill me. he had me thinking i was crazy. i had 3 years of therapy and now accept, i was not at fault for what happened, i was played.)

That ALL being said, trust does not come easy for me, it takes time, and i do now go with my gut feelings about people. (Sorry if that offends anyOne)   i will tell You flat out, i will NOT "ghost You"

i live in a basement apt. under my son DIL, with my first gbaby due in Dec.

Thanks to the ex, and arthritis in my feet, my finances are not good, but i would NEVER ASK FOR, or take anything from anyone on line. i will make do with what i have or not have it.. For me it is that simple.

i have a 145 doggo, age 7,  a cat.

i may not have much anymore, but i have my peace of mind, to me that is priceless. And Hopefully one day i will have One to serve.

So there are my hi lights and low spots..

anything else You want to know, just ask.

How to get blocked in 3,2,1

If this is how You start out talking to a woman..You in my opinion ( and experience_)  are nothing but a preditore and POS.

Sorry if i have not responded to Your messages, i have been without power due to the hurricane, i will get to them in the order i have recieved them. 

Please be patient with me, Kink is my way of life, but NOT my life.

LRA