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It is so easy to get caught up in fantasy that Dominant Females are these All Powerful Goddesses who know what is
best for the "boi(s)" and will provide great happiness and wonderful sexually arousing lives for them, and that the
"boi" will perfectly and fully submit, if the Goddess takes him.
The reality is this, a Dominant Female is someone who identifies as Dominant, who feels best when in the Leadership
role in the relationship. This means, she is not perfect, she does not know what is always best, and.. therefore,
she will not (often) seem to be a Goddess, she will usually appear, as the flawed female human that She is. She
also knows that a submissive male is imperfect as well, he may or may not wish to be a submissive in all of his
life to her, or he may want/need to start slow, maybe go deeper, maybe not. There is no "one size fits all" here.
What inspires him, fulfills him, his needs.. may be far different than another submissive male. We are all unique
and imperfect, and need to recognize this. Those wanting a relationship must keep our heads focused on reality,
and enjoy the fantasies for what they are.
There is no replacement for open, respectful, TWO WAY communication in a relationship. Not experience, not
empathy,... they help, but they do not replace... communication. Never assume someone knows how you feel, how you
think.. that they 'should' know.
For Me, an ideal relationship is based on connecting with, and enjoying the other person. Its friendship,
laughter, deep talks, respect, romance, commonality, differences, respect (yep, its important enough, I list it
twice) and open communications.
Then there is the shared understanding of the FLR. This is about what works for both people, it may be "extreme"
or "subtle"... it needs to be explored, discussed and should be fluid, not static. It does not have to involve
kink, but it certainly can (personally, I like it).. but it is most important that it works for the two people
involved, not to meet some D/s stereotype. The thoughts that are the most arousing may or may not work in day to
day life. So, you explore as a couple and find those things.. those balances, or imbalances... that help the
relationship to thrive.
I know many will find this profile, these thoughts, to be out of place here. Obviously, I don't, but to each their
own. I am not looking to provide "sexual stimulation" in a profile. However, if you want to know My honest
viewpoint on relationships, and an FLR, this is a good start.
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