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I've been involved in varying degrees with the BDSM world for between 15 and 20 years now. One of the things that I most like about being over 40 (and there aren't that many, btw) is that every day I feel more comfortable in my own skin, more confident of who I am, what I need in a relationship, and what I have to offer the woman with whom I build an intimate and lasting relationship. I am a dominant man, but if your idea of dominance is the ability to raise one's voice and show bravado, I'm not the one for you. Instead, I think that dominance should be manifest through a quiet, inspiring confidence. It should inspire through the demonstrated character and judgment of the dominant partner. The way he carries himself and the judgment and character he displays should move his woman to want to defer and submit to him. I believe that discipline will be necessary from time to time to reinforce household rules and expectations, but one who is truly dominant will exercise control more through his inspiration than through his ability to punish. That being said, though, discipline is not something I will shy from if the situation warrants it. Discipline reinforces rules, maintains order and is a necessary part of any HOH's toolkit.

Since you are reading this here, it should go without saying that we both share an interest in some form of kink, and exploring that with the woman I commit to is something I will relish, but at the same time, that isn't what a solid relationship will be built upon. I want to get to know you. I want for you to feel comfortable baring your soul to me and me to you. I want us to be able to talk for hours about topics important and trivial, or to talk about nothing at all and be comfortable with the silence. I want share good laughs and good times all the while there is no doubt that we are in a D/s relationship. I want to discuss everything, but to earn your trust that each decision I make is one you feel confident and safe in following. If you falter, I want you to feel nurtured and safe while you accept discipline to restore that good D/s balance to our relationship.

Just to give you a little bit of an idea about me: I'm a transplant to Lexington from the western part of the state. I work in I.T. in the public sector and am as happy in my job as anyone has the right to expect. I don't love the job, but I like what I do well enough. I have a graduate degree that I don't use in my job at all, but I'm still glad I have it. For entertainment, I like to listen to music, tinker with my computer a bit, go to movies and just hang out with friends. There will be time enough for a more in-depth description once we start to talk, so I'll leave us with something to talk about later.

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vanessaall
 
 Age: 22
  California