Life is an ever increasing conundrum that thrusts us all into a myriad of responsibilities requiring us to sort through the minutia, make our choices and achieve our goals. Through all of this we yearn to find our soul mate, albeit Dom, Master, sub, slave, etc.; vanilla, chocolate or a combination. Easy, by all means no! What I’ve found to be most notorious in obstructing this search is the lack of communication. Should my simple words written here for all to review attract and seal-the-deal on my ultimate mate, I think not. It should ideally stimulate a conversation. The Internet allows direct and discreet (well one would hope) exchange of information. In lieu of dating most tend to disregard this empowering utility. Rather it’s a quick look at a picture(s) and profile and on to the next looking or seeking perfection. We’re not all writers or marketers and if we were I’d be a bit concerned.

I love adages; don’t bite the hand that feeds you, for example. Another adage “opposites attract” and in thinking about it we read a profile of someone that doesn’t instantly click and we click to the next profile. I’ve read countless profiles and I’ve been impressed by 18 and 80 year olds, not that I’m seeking such a gap in age, its knowledge that drives me. I tend to send a nice note, whether in NJ or Norway. I tend to communicate and now jump off my soapbox, for the moment, hoping to find a lady (yes before sub/slave) that can share in communicating and building a bond.

Submission, dominance, et al can be defined and rationalized individually. It is in the communication I speak to that ideally guides two to becoming one. Whether you prefer masking over duct tape is your personal means of happiness and I don’t judge anyone by their vices. I’m geared toward intellectual stimulation first and foremost. If you believe a Dom/ Master should be a physically forceful, overbearing, tyrannical individual; enjoy, you’re not for me. I work hard at my profession and respected in my abilities. I’m that guy that walks in a room and there’s typically pause. Call it commanding respect or whatever you may choose. I don’t state this as a position of arrogance, I state this as knowing I treat those I deal with in a respectful manner knowing I’m learning from those I engage.

My submissive will not shy from telling me 2+3 doesn’t equal 4 when I say it does. She shall have a mind of her own. We’re wired the way we are through years of genesis stemming from hunter/ gatherers to today. I believe my beauty exists who can stand on her own but has that instinctive urge to find that man who is respectful of her and can’t be complete without giving all of herself, simply and totally submitting herself to please him, which pleases her and forms an intrinsic bond.