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Seeking submissive debutante for dalliance and debasement.
I am an older (married) man with a predilection toward BDSM. But, then you must have suspected as much. I am reasonably fit, exercise regularly. I’m not a movie-star or male model, but I’m told that I am attractive for a man of my vintage.
I have a knack for introducing a woman to the pleasures of bondage, domination and submission, and other forms of erotic play. I enjoy the process of awakening these drives in novices and younger women, or the female half of a couple.
As a Dominant my style tends to be paternal owing to my age, life experience, and manner. As your instructor and guide, it is my charge to look out for your safety and well-being, while subjecting you to experiences designed to deepen your submission and your desire, your need to submit.
I establish Dominance primarily by psychological means through my (acquired) knowledge of your fears, vulnerabilities and taboos. Initially, this may also include verbal humiliation, and the possibility that you will be found wanting or unacceptable in some way. This is followed by physical trials such as obedience training, discipline and punishment, use of restraints, the judicious application of pleasure and pain, and control of your body.
The final stage involves testing your devotion, resolve, and loyalty. These tests may be physical, psychological, or a combination of the two. In the end, I want to know that you are willing to do anything I ask of you, and endure anything for me. Or in the case of a wife I have trained, anything her husband or I ask of her. (All within the confines of agreed upon limits and with your safety in mind.)
I enjoy binding a woman, controlling her, teasing her, using her, administering pleasure mixed with pain. I do become aroused when inflicting torture or pain, and have a sadistic streak. However, I’m not a true sadist since it is only satisfying for me if my partner enjoys what I am doing, either on a physical or psychological level, ideally, both. The exchange must be mutual: mutually pleasurable, mutually satisfying.
To be frank, I like smart women, educated women, and value a sense of humor. I am most attracted to a HWP woman, though curvy women, excite me as well. I’m crazy for piercings and tattoos. I find many “types” of women attractive.
I’m willing to consider women from the early 20's on up, though I prefer women 30-45. Obviously, a man my age is not to every younger woman’s taste, so my expectations are realistic. However, I find women of all ages attractive.
I will plan sessions, provide safe words, ensure your safety, and play Safely, Sanely, and Consensually. Your limits will be respected at all times, unless of course it is appropriate to push them. (Grin)
So, lets start with a couple of emails, talk on the phone, meet for a glass of wine and take it from there. Meeting in person is the best way to see if there is chemistry which can be unpredictable at best.
If you have been "in the lifestyle” for your whole adult life, I probably won’t be a good match. I simply don't have the depth you require. However, if you are new to BDSM, are less experienced, or if you are jaded as a result of a bad encounter, we may just be a fit. I do have experience in many facets of play, more than enough to satisfy a curious new comer and then some.
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