Relationships are hard on the soul. I'm grateful for my first BDSM /lationship it helped me grow as a person, gave me a better understanding of the scene. I found things I like and those I don't, within me and others.
It also quite surprisingly taught me about patience, and friendship. Take things slow, don't rush, don't confuze love with lust. Friendship, in the form of new friends who were there to help me ease the pain.
Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two—love and controlling power over the other person—are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.”
“The 'Dance of Love' is much more of a dialogue, one takes the lead and the other follows. One dictates a step and the other carries it out. One determines the direction, the other determines the distance travelled in a given figure. One sets the pace, the other reveals the grace. One understands the language of the other and knows what is coming next. The one leading leads with love and respect; never seeing the follower as being weak or inferior. And in the same manner, the one following follows with Trust and Submission; never feeling too big to be led or scared to jump. There is a blind assurance that someone is there to catch.” ― Olaotan Fawehinmi
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