A good dom understands that the ultimate dominant aphrodisiac for the sub is genuine self-confidence. . The good dom has taken inventory of and is comfortable with his own talents, skill assets and strengths. he is confident enough to see his own flaws clearly.
If a dominant cracks a whip in the woods and there are no submissives is he still a dom?
Absolutely! A good dom is not defined by the other, in this case the submissive, but rather he is defined by a sense of self and comfort in his own identity as an erotically dominant man. he knows that it is false confidence to need to define oneself by the others around him. Every dominant from time to time will find himself alone, whether by circumstance or by choice. he knows that his relationship status does not change who he is fundamentally.
The good dominant knows that the ultimate power is that of persuasion. To get them to want to do for you what you command of them. Any fool with a fearsome enough weapon can force another against her will to do things. That's the power of the brutish, fearful and those lacking in self-confidence. It's down right annoying! The art is in bringing out a desire previously unaroused in the submissive by the dom's persuasive powers, confidence and graceful seduction.
I am well educated but most of all I have a lot of common sense
The woman I need will have to be strong, not a doormat, think on her feet, and be able to discuss world issues and her thoughts I'd like to be in a relationship with a submissive woman, we will appears vanilla to the outside world, friends and family, but I am fully in control at all times; correcting or adjusting your actions with a look, touch, word or gesture. who is seeking a strong Dominant, who understands your need for structure and rules. i thrive in an environment where the woman has no doubt who I am and makes sure that she receive reassurance as well as discipline depending on the situation.
