The old farmette is sold, and winter is here.

City living and winter are not so conducive to having my friend/domestic boy over. He really needs a domme to serve.

And still going slow with my very vanilla but learning sub/semi-partner.

Was very proud of him breaking a restraint. I like a bit of a struggle now and then.

;)

He suggested I seek a unicorn to live-in and love and play, mainly because he is here so infrequently. I think it is sweet he worries about me, ah but nope.

"How do you know you don't like it if you haven't tried it with the right partner?"

Not enough hours for fun.

http://www.girlswithslingshots.com/comic/gws-1358/

Thought this was too funny not to share

My new bed was finally delivered. Head & foot-boards perfect for anchoring ropes. Can't wait to try it out this weekend. Of course the salesman was a little red-faced when I was climbing on the demo models to "test" how sturdy they were.

And my Sunshine is getting more comfortable with my 'requests' to spank me. *sigh* I don't know which I look forward to more - breaking in the bed - with a nice book read to me after, getting a red bottom, or simply relaxing while he brushes my hair.

I have to chuckle at some of the messages I get from local subs proclaiming their desires to serve me (or better yet to have me "service" them). I am Mistress to only one, and if he were suddenly not in my life I would not actively seek another to take his place. The same goes for ever placing myself in a sub position -  never again, acknowledged D/s relationship or not, I have too much self-respect to ever suppress my natural state to try to keep a relationship again.

On the other hand, if a local sub wanted to come over to serve me by finishing the taping & mudding my bedroom drywall.. perhaps we could talk.

I have long fantasized about an FMF experience. While I still think that would be immensely fun with the right woman and my Sunshine, I have come to accept that I desire it more for the experience/challenge of pleasuring a woman myself. If it ever happens "organically" I look forward to it. Bi-curiosity - a wonderful thought.

Happy Holidays to those who are celebrating. Enjoy this great holiday "tail" : http://www.literotica.com/p/twas-the-night-before-christmas-10

Love. *sigh* Nothing like having your sub/SO working on your bedroom remodel while you are away for work. Of course, he will also benefit greatly when the work is done.   :)

I may not fit the definition of a "weal domme" by some standards, but our dynamic works amazingly well for us. I am learning and accepting that a D/s relationship is so much in the mindset of those involved. I had told my Sunshine that I was not seeking a 24/7 D/s lifestyle, but more and more we see that flavor expressing itself in everyday life.

I would not have imagined sitting, snuggling a love while his wife and child sat near us (I had always been the hinge of the hinge of the V in previous poly relationships. The D/s takes a backseat during those times, and the strictly loving side shows itself more. It is so nice to have that fully expressed so often too.

I am also enjoying the new D/s & SM additions to my library.  ;)

To clarify a few points folks have brought up (and raising to the bait of others) in the thread "Accepting your Domme Personality"  http://www.collarchat.com/m_3956472/tm.htm

Yes, his wife knows - they were poly long before I came into the picture, and she appreciates the dynamic my relationship with him have added to their own relationship. His wife is passive in many aspects of life and their relationship, not just sexually or in decision making. This is simply an observation, and in no way is meant as a dis. My love with my sunshine is not an "affair", ours is a serious and aiming for very long term committed relationship. His wife understands our level of commitment and fully embraces our relationship.

He is my sub when he is mine, I do no intend to control his wife through him, but she reaps many benefits as a result, including his improved communication skillset, his well manicured nails (we gals all recognize how important that can be in an intimate situation), and her being able to feel less pressured or forced to make some of the mundane non-life-changing decisions for him.

I had recognize that in professional and family life, and while he is with his wife - life remains relatively unchanged, which is why I said life is 90% vanilla. Perhaps I should have stated that in our relationship the % vanilla will continue to change as we both discover our limits and if/when we go co-housing. For now he has two homes, though primarily with his wife as his job is closer and my schedule is hectic.

Not seeking partners, but thank you to those of you who messaged with the lovely offers to serve me. I hope you find the Domme(s) of your dreams.

I am interested most in learning how to "be" the Domme that I know have inside me, and to lovingly care for my sunshine, fulfilling his needs to be my sub.

I am proceeding slowly, and have recently tasked us to complete BDSM checklists to start learning more about our respective desires and boundaries.

This will be an interesting process. We are poly, and while he is my primary, he also defers to his wife who refuses to acknowledge his submissive gift. He and I do hope for a co-housing arrangement for our extended family in the foreseeable future.. which may spark her desires to embrace the gift he has also offered Her.