i knew a Lady once who wanted to dominate me. i knew "She" wished to "play" in scenes at a club with me, as She had seen me in constraints at a club and in other scene's by a Mistress. i was unattached now and W/we had exchanged numbers and talked on the phone frequently. i did some chores for Her under the vanilla umbrella. then one day on the phone She told me next time i came over W/we were going to "play". She just didn't have that "essence" of the "dominance", exuding that "power". it just didn't feel the same, didn't spark, it was a "being nice" kind of dominance She was practicing and it just didn't speak to my soul and if that is a degree of dominance, it is unrecognized by my submissive nature. i could not submit to this order of dominance, it felt soft, as if seeking my acceptence, permission. kindness is appreciated within my BDSM to flavor an already existing D/s relationship but i can't react to someone just saying a request, nicely and/or cordially, that does not dominate my submissive nature. my reflexes acknowledge "Female Superiority", "commands" from the Female, an "authority" that gives me place, She has a sure expectancy of obedience, "Her" authority and that expectancy draws my soul into obedience and naturally my submissive nature takes me into Her will, under Her forcefulness, under Her "power", just by a word. "Ye do have that power" to control a soul, just by a word. Seeking a Superior Female Authority for lifestyle D/s relationship.

A horse can learn the ignorances of an inexperienced rider but that does take "time". A horse can learn the nuances of an     experienced rider, but that does take "time" also.

I've seen perfectly trained horses, who were professionally trained, abused, because the person trying to ride them didn't have any training.

When looking for good lumber one does not have a choice of all the trees, but of "one" which is "select" and you cut down that one tree. One does not cut down a tree, mill the lumber, only to find it must be rejected, then the task of repeating the same process, cutting and milling many trees. 
   One wanders the forest, observe's several that will work, comtemplate's each one's dimension's, the length of the straight areas, what can be used in short dimension's, weak or damaged area's due to storms or knots from where limbs once grew etc., and then the tree is cut, it's pro's and con's already figured in, it's taken to the mill for milling and the select lumber then used for the building project. Note that after the tree is found, selected, cut, hauled to the mill, the lumber milled, then the  "building" begins and this all takes TIME !
Most of the dominants on here seem to just want to pick up something cheap and shabbily built and I guess their intent is to just use it for a while and then throw it back. They don't want to WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS TIME ! To build any fine piece of furniture, it takes TIME. I say if a dominant isn't willing to work with you, commit time with building a D/s relationship, they are probably just wanting to use you and then throw you back to the nets. I think a dominant SHOULD be like a coach, a teacher, people willing to put in some TIME, for a winning team, and to see your work manifest in the pupil, an inner pride for any real teacher, any uhummm..."real" dominant.   

No Ma'am, the many are not what you are seeking, it is "one" of the few.

Some Domme's&Dom's think subs will just do things because they say do it, but they don't carry the dominant denomenator, so they call us subs fakes and wannabe's because we won't just do what they say. They will even try using vocals, theatrics, thinking that talking very stern will work, or getting angry like a father will work, but it dosen't so they call us subs fakes and wannabe's. They will even try convincing how wrong and disrespectful you are for not obeying and when that dosen't work, they call us subs fakes and wannabe's. The three Mistress's i have served never had to do any of those things, for me to kneel at their feet, to submit or to give me for their flavorful riding crop. A true Domme&Dom will reach into your soul and one will submit with trust, having a natural understanding and affinity of their degree, a meeting of the spirits, quite natural to me.

My opinions, likes and dislikes change from day to day but am/was/are always a submissive to the female.