IndariAdel		InDarkness		indarkness

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updated 3-11-11 ... it is longer but that makes it all clear :-) First things first ... the dark in my ID of indarkpleasure does not indicate extreme booga booga but rather the unknowns that might have a tat of booga booga gothic to make things interesting, like the rack or bondage or other kinky devices and passtimes :-) (No ... I do not own a rack ... yet) Maybe the dark is meaning undiscovered places. The pleasure speaks for it's self, probably more than anything else. One of my main frustrations with doing profiles is that I face the dilema of do I say to little and keep you guessing or have I said to much. A couple of times I have talked a little with someone it ended up they had some notion I was maybe to far into all of this for them to fit me. In other words I was to "experienced". The contradiction to me with that being said is that I feel experience equals the ability to understand, help, nurture, keep it safe and teach. To me the experience is or should be my number one positive. In any event I have never found a counterpart here but I stay optimistic. I have been in the lifestyle over 30 years which means I think I do know one or two things by now and thus I will expect you listen and give consideration to what I have to say. Then if there are questions or points to discuss it is handled respectfully. I also hope for someone who understands or is will to learn Ds is not "all about" how you think it should go. Training means you learn my ways and when or if I allow you yours it is because it benefits me as your Dom and that in turn benefits you because that is the foundation of Ds. Training means more than me calling you slut, telling you to get on your knees, giving you stupid assignments or cracking a whip on your behind. Commitment means you take things at least as seriously as I do. Communication is more than an IM here and there.... especially one that starts with "hey dude" and is peppered with yeah rather than respectful yes Sir. Showing appreciation, interest or respect is more than repeating words I told you to say. So anyway, now that I probably turned away half the people who might visit my profile (It is called separating the wheat from the chaff), ... I do have a good sense of humor and am a pretty nice guy most of the time. To be perfectly clear ... I am looking for a submissive counterpart and I do not care about your age, body type or relationship status other than I do not believe you can serve more than one Master in the lifestyle. ... (I do not care about your "vanilla" relationship status). I am open to off and on play or very serious deeper Ds. I am not after numbers and I want a counterpart not just a wham bam ... though that can be fun at times. I do not think Ds is all about sex but it is very erotic, sensual and ... sexual. The reason I put my age as 90 is that I do not believe age, body type and all that are important in the vanilla world have very much to do with real Ds BDSM oriented experiences, as long as everything works ... which it does. For now just know I am to young to grow old and to old to grow up. (you have permission to write me and ask if you do want to know age or anything else, respectfully.) Times, situations and people change but one constant for over 30 years is that I am a Dom. I do not switch, I am not bi and I love women. I do not know or care what trans, morphic, fluctuatng, poly (other than multiple partners) and all the rest of the newer categorization means. What you see is what you get but it will take more than a couple of hours to figure out. I have few limits but do allow a counterpart what she needs though I will always push her to explore beyond what she thinks is her edge. I have not entered into Ds because it is in fashion or might get me a few kinky thrills. I do it because it is a part of who I am and in that I have taken the time and effort to learn there is a need for a Master to master himself before he can master another. I am aware I have some attitudes that might be abrasive but they usually only surface when I see someone does not know what they are talking about and, worse, what they are saying can tend to screw someone else up in what could otherwise be a great journey. Maybe attitudes come from having been in this lifestyle many years before the internet made it fashionable or to many pretenders began spouting what to's and how to's that seem to have been dreamed up by an author of scifi novels or pulled from some video they watched on hogtied. (Actually I like Hogtied videos BUT they do not really reflect any Ds dynamic that is sustainable.) The stories of Gore were kinda boring as sci fi fiction and the movie sucked. The story of O either book or movie says something of benefit though it would not be feasible for me to take anything so far. The exception to disdain I might have would be those who have taken the effort to learn and then given enough of real life to understanding and putting into practice. That kind of dedication takes more than a statement you are this or that simply because you think you are or should be or want to be. Might also be nice if some "Masters" would be old enough to have really experienced much of life, meaning 19, or 22 or even a bit more just does not quite add up to being very experienced and Masterful, at least in my book. Agree or not IF we meet respect the fact I have my ideas and they will not change. Let's see, what else? I was and probably still am a 1 percenter at heart but much of me left it behind in favor of staying out of jail. If you do not know what that means don't worry about it, I don't even own a skooter anymore other than my moped and that aint for being bad ass ... it gets 75 mpg. If we write know in advance my spelling is not great but it is not because I do not know better, I am really really really dyslexic and my touch sensitive pad is in a bad location LOL. Good excuse anyway! I am good at bondage and enjoy kinbaku and shibari as long as it does not interfere with the passionate flow. I have extensive experience in body rites as well as most S&M and understand the interplay of pain and pleasure and how they can blend to be a third sensation. I have attended seminars in body rites held by fakir musafar (he calls them intensives)You can visit his personal website for more on what body rites are. This is an area of interest for me BUT I do not push a counterpart into any of it since it is an experience that needs to be a personal goal or desire. I have taught and mentored people in body play, sexuality and enhanced "sub space" experiences and I actually have clinical experience from when I was a real therapist .... back in the days when things were more "interesting". (I will explain that if you ask). I can function at any level of Ds from light to TPE, however I am not interested in doing things as all about play or doing extensive dress-up though a garter belt and some trimmings are always a nice addition. I just mean I am NOT categorized as leather, rubber, plastic, tin, brass, 666ish or booga booga. Actually skin bared is always the best as long as somewhat hwp and if I want your dressed I can make a covering of rope. If, after reading this profile, you think I am an arrogant asshole ... fine, that means I probably have reached the place I want to be in life... cantankerous and somewhat abrassive warranted by my years. After all aging has to have some benfit:-) Finally ... So there is no surprise later .... I am married. She is aware of my "interests" but does not share them so this life is separated from that life ... totally. However, I do not see that has a single thing to do with the Ds BDSM lifestyle because Ds is not about romance ... it is about something far beyond that actually.