Its probably long over due that I change my profile, I've been gone a while and while nothing was irrelevant to my current life it seems appropriate to change things now and again.

So first who I am and then who I am looking for.

I am busy and vital. I am many things, a single mother, a runner, a harrierette (if you have to ask you probably wouldn't get it), I'm a professional wage slave and a retired punk rawker.

I have a great group of people that I run and camp and drink with. I am not formal, I am not religious, nor overly groomed (read fussy with done nails, makeup everyday, too m uch hair product, etc).

I am a jean and t shirt kind of person- I am informal, I do things my way if I ever have the choice and I usually do. I love great food but I'm just as happy eating a cheese burger and drinking PBR. I work hard, though- last season I was doing 1/2 marathons and will be doing them again this year with at least 1 full marathon on the calendar and probably a triathlon, too).

I have a house full of critters, a dog, a cat and a 6 year old boy- I have family close by and I spend time with them. My personal goals and familial relationships are important to me.

My job isn't as important to me, though- I left off the carrer I was looking at for other choices so work is how I finance the rest of my world. This has changed- I was laid off the miserable office job and took the chance to go back to school and get the job I want and love- now I love what I do but it has changed my outlook drastically.

Kink in various forms is important to my sexual life- its a part of my hard wiring make up and what makes me tick. It is not the be all and end all of what I am on here for. If all you want to talk about is what is happening in your pants and what you hope I will do about it I'm not going to be a very polite conversationalist.

I am looking for people that are going to add to my life, not be a drain that I have to deal with. I don't want to struggle. I have a lot of things going on so I want someone who will fit in with that. You can leave PC at the door, if you aren't vanilla friendly leave that too- if you want to be kept in a cage more power to you but I'm not going to explain that to my son so someone else can keep you. And if that didn't suffice for the obligatory statement against drama and gaming, you didnt read closly enough- I don't care enough to "do" my eye brows (if you don't know what that means all the better) let alone to pretend to be any one I'm not- I just am who I am because its not worth the effort to make believe with what is important in my life.

So what is important and what I AM looking for is going to be long term, mutually beneficial and rewarding. A thoughfully negotiated and synergistic team. I am willing to give on some thiongs and not on others. Amongst the things I am not willing to give on are that I require anyone that I'd want around to be a present and fully functioning partner in life. If you have nothing going for you once the bondage comes off I'm not going to waist my time.

Now let me temper all this seriousness a bit and say that I am fun loving and completely irreverent. I don;t want to live my life too seriously and laugh at my self regularly- I want the same from those around me. I refuse to take much seriously, even the politics I follow are irrelevant in the face of the crush of life.

If you think we have something in common, write and tell me what it is but before you do- be aware that I want a real life partnership, read long term commitment. I expect you to be local and compatible before I extend any courtesty outside of Collarme. I have enough going in life that I don't need any more "friends" or penpals and I won't waste my time sitting on the computer dominanting someone over a web cam. Don't ask!

Best wishes.