Sub Versus Slave:

After multiple e-mails regarding the difference I offer this from Rayne at

SubmissiveGuide.com

A sub is someone who still retains some control, but is in service to someone else. They have the right to say no and walk away at any time. They have a safe word. They have limits. They’re not owned.

A slave is owned.A slave is someone without limits or safe words. A slave is someone who opens himself or herself completely to his or her owner. Complete transparency. Total power exchange. He or she doesn’t have a choice

A submissive is someone who submits willingly, sometimes on a case by case basis, to the will of another. A slave is someone who is wholly controlled and owned by another. That’s really the sum of it.

The differences can be subtle. Let's face it, the slave is also willingly being a slave in reality. They choose to allow their Master's to totally control them.

We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs. You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man.

An important aspect of communication is being able to tell your Dom/Master what you are afraid of, what you fantasize about and what you are normally more uncomfortable sharing. If you can be open with your Dom/Master on that level there is a good chance that you are compatible with them and will develop a great D/s M/s relationship.

A slave has no such right. She is his to use whenever he wishes. He doesn't have to appease her to get anything from her, so she always knows when he touches her, he does so merely because he wants to, not because he feels he has to in order to get sex. How can a girl not respond to that? Being the object of desire of such a Man reaches deep within a girl to her most primal sexuality and wrests it from her, unleashing her from her self and creating a burning need in her that keeps her at his feet and puts her in his thrall.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you.

If you are internally enslaved you can’t leave, and in some ways those bonds are stronger than steel chains. You could be forcibly enslaved and put in chains, but the first opportunity to get away and you would be gone because the slavery would be superficial. Far deeper is it for your Master to enslave you by the heart and soul. You can’t so easily cut those chains off.