A friend asked what do I want, what is the perfect relationship for me? This is my answer,
Time...companionship...friendship...service...love...sex! What do these things mean to me...(Time)I realize that to have any type of healthy relationship you must spend time together. (Companionship)To truly be completely there in the moment at least some of the time when you are in the same room. (friendship) To want to spend time together and to truly like the other person and enjoy their company can meet needs as much as BDSM does. (Service) To serve in any way and be appreciated for it...no rewards are truly needed if a smile or kind word is given (but i wouldn't turn down a good whipping either...lol)....(Love) Even if Love is not at first site I do believe that love can grow...be learned and can be just as deep if nurtured...however I do know from experience that for the last two things to really work forever their has to be a physical attraction. (sex) The best sex isn't about the other persons looks, size or anything like that...it's their creativity, their passion, their desire to work at it even when they think they have tried it all...the best sex is using all your senses to experience anothers' pleasure and because of it being blessed with your own pleasure . Our genitals are hardly our ownly sexual parts, sight, taste, hearing, touch, the entire body is our playground...BDSM doesn't even need sex to be satisfying however I need both to be happy and fullfilled not necessarily together... |