I frequently am asked what do I want.  I want erotica, I want romance, I want the deeper bond of trust, love and communication that comes with a D/s relationship.  This takes time to develop and most are not willing to take that time.  To play on a first or second meeting before trust, respect and communication has fully developed is just play acting for me and if a Dominant knows this is not what I want but pushes it then I know he has no respect for me as a person and he is not for me.  I have had two long term D/s relationships in the past and I know it is possible and very fulfilling to meld both the vanilla and this lifestyle.  I am devoted and put my others happiness and fulfillment at the top of my desires list and expect the same in return.  There are those that will mutter 'this isn't submission'....again, you are not for me.  The one for me will get it, no questions asked.  And when I do find the Dominant for me the fireworks will begin and never stop.

As the old year winds down and the new year approaches let go of all the not so good from the past year, embrace the good and move forward with hope, happiness and contentment.  To quote one of my favorite authors....Life is not fair, Life hurts, Life is good.

Happy New Year Everyone

My Grownup Christmas Wish

That people world wide can learn to all get along despite differences of opinion. 

That people can respect others choices.

That people can embrace change rather than fight it.

That tolerance, understanding, compassion and empathy abound.

Merry Christmas one and all.

I must admit I am amused by those who add me to their favorite's list yet have not viewed my profile nor had any contact with me.  I just delete myself from their list and all is right with the world.

I am finding this to be a bit of deja vu....after being away from this site for 4 years I am seeing the same profiles with the same pictures that were here when I left.  Either nobody's life changes or they are too lazy or not real to update.  The site continues to be entertaining regardless so I will stick around a while longer.