i thought love could be enough but i guess its not.... my heart hurts so bad ill ever be good enough. trying to give someone the world isnt good enough and i guess nothing will ever be for u. i hope you find what you are looking for and u taught me to never give people your heart easily

"A man can truly love only that woman," he said, "who is truly his, who belongs to him. Otherwise he is only a part to a contract." "A woman," I said, "can love only that man to whom she truly belongs." "To whom do you truly belong, Slave?" he asked. "To you, Master,"

i saw this on and thought it fits me to a t:

I feel a little stuck. I am admittedly a hopeless romantic that still wants a love story, to find a guy to fall head over heels for and who adores me as much as I do him. That being said, the kinky side of me also needs a Dominant personality to understand and fulfill my submissive needs too. It's a difficult balance of physical attraction, Dominance, and companionship to find in one person, and thus far, I've been unsuccessful looking in both the vanilla dating world and the kinky dating scene.

Lately i've gotten several "thanks but no thanks" type responses from guys I've messaged on vanilla dating sites, who have said, I'm not the body type they are looking for. Which is fine. Not everyone likes curvy girls, but it seems that no matter how great you are in every other way, and how perfectly you fit their profile wants, we curvy girls get passed over a lot in the vanilla world, which makes me feel more self conscious about my curves and like only the thin girls get their dream guys. Not to mention, the majority of vanilla guys might like the idea of "playing" Dom...but they just can't truly fulfill the submissive needs that I have because they don't really understand the D/s dynamic.

The flips side of that is finding some great Doms on sites like , who know what they are talking about and who embrace and love my curves more and make me feel better about myself. But the guys I meet from kink sites seem to be all about play and sex, and not about romance or dating. While I sometimes crave that Dominant hand, but it's not something I can do 24/7 and I don't want someone who wants to run my whole life for me. Nor do I just want a bunch of play partners who what to fuck and spank me, but not date me or get to know the other sides to my personality. Most of the conversations I have with single men on end up turning to back sex again and again and I feel like while they may know my every intimate fantasy, they have no real interest in getting to know the rest of me as a person or spend time with me except for a booty call.

This feels like a no win situation for a girl like me, who wants a meaningful romantic relationship with someone my own age, that i'm attracted to, and who fits into my vanilla life comfortably, but who also fulfills my needs as a submissive in private (and hopefully i fulfill his needs as a Dom). Has anyone found this balance? Where did you find it? Did it start as a play relationship and develop into more? or did you have the relationship first and strengthened it with D/s?