So, my b-day is later this month, and I am wanting a good pet to play with. Seeing as it doesn't look as though I'll have a cuck by the point. :/

There are far too many people on here "claiming" they want to be a cuckold, then after spending time talking and getting to know one another, they disappear.

I've been on this site for years, and I've found a few play pets, but nothing that was worth trying for an actual relationship with. It should not be this rough to weed thru the fakes to find a good boi!

I saw this, and thought it very informative! Those that think you want to be a cuckold should read this!

CUCKOLDING AND FEMALE-LED RELATIONSHIPS

The Power of Cuckolding

Cuckolding has a close and powerful association with female-led relationships. Cuckolding is, after all, a wife's assertion of her sexual freedom with partners other than her husband. (I'm using "wife" and "husband" to include non-married couples in committed relationships.) Her husband is aware of her sexual adventures but remains faithful to her, placing him in a subordinate position.

A whole literature has grown up around cuckolding. A central theme is the humiliation experienced by the cuckold. Cuckolds report that seeing their wives with their lovers sends them instantly into "subspace." There are many fictional or semi-fictional accounts of cuckolds serving drinks to their wife and her lover, providing oral service to the wife and/or wife's lover after they have completed their lovemaking, and so on. Often there is a rather distasteful racial component to cuckolding accounts, featuring well-endowed African-American "bulls," very white wives and wimpy cuckolds. The cuckolding literature seems unusually fevered, even by Internet standards.

Cuckolding clearly taps into primal emotions and fears that play well in Dominant/submissive settings. Yet, cuckolding in this traditional sense gets its power from outmoded patriarchal and racial stereotypes. The shame the cuckold feels, for example, is based on the notion that a strong man should not lose control of his property, namely, his wife. The shock of a married woman exploring her sexuality with other partners while her husband remains monogamous is because traditionally men were much freer to engage in extra-marital affairs than their wives. The trope of black bulls with superior cocks ravishing white women is straight out of the Bull Connor school of Southern erotic literature.

Female-led relationships upend these stereotypes and this begs the question--what role does cuckolding play in female-led relationships. I believe that in female-led relationships the female partner has the inherent authority to take on other lovers while her male partner remains pledged exclusively to her. While this is cuckolding as a technical matter, there can be far less humiliation and shame than with traditional cuckolding. This is because the notion of the woman as a free sexual creature is a given in female-led relationships. To put it another way, the cuckolded man in a female led relationship loses nothing because his female partner's fidelity was never his to own and control in the first place. Cuckolding thus need not be such a potent source of shame and humiliation.

This is not to say that cuckolding no longer poses emotional challenges in female led relationships. And this is not to say that couples may well chose to explore in word and deed the kinds of humiliation and transgressive eroticism associated with classical cuckoldry. But in female-led relationships cuckolding can also be expressed as a much less emotionally charged Monogamus/Polyamorous relationship, where the wife is polyamorous and her subordinate husband remains monogamous.

Cuckolding In Female-Led Relationships

Couples in female-led relationships have the freedom to find the most comfortable place for themselves on the spectrum that runs from the wild power of classical cuckolding to the less emotionally jarring Mono/Poly approach to no cuckolding at all. In a female-led relationship it is up to the wife to point the way to the most suitable place on that spectrum for the couple. For some couples, this might be a situation where the husband is held in long-term chastity, has limited access to his wife's body, and finds himself raising another man's child. For others, it may be enough for the wife to playfully note on occasion that she is free to "cheat" while her husband must remain faithful to her, even though the wife never moves beyond flirting with potential partners. Here are some cuckolding tips for males in female-led relationships to help them and their partners find the right place on that spectrum.

1. Cuckolding Is for Her

As reflected in the literature, all to often cuckolding is the product of male fantasy and the wife's interests and well-being are secondary, if considered at all. Many times it seems like the husband all but pimps his wife so he can reap the voyeuristic thrills of watching her be ravished by another man. Using emotional blackmail to force one's partner into sex is hardly the stuff of female-led relationships.

Instead, approach cuckolding slowly and gently. You must assume more chores and other responsibilities so she has the time and energy to even consider taking on other lovers. Commenting positively on her sensuality is important, as is stoking her erotic imagination by subtly encouraging to conjure up thoughts of other lovers.

Respect her decision if she chooses not to seek a lover (or three). Her life may be full enough right now and she might not wish to further complicate things with a new relationship. She also may not be convinced that you can handle the emotional challenges associated with being a cuckold. So, do what you can to make it possible for her to cuckold you, make known your wish that she consider exercising her right to take on other lovers and respect her decision whatever it is.

2. Be sure you are ready

Cuckolding changes everything about your relationship to your wife. Once a cuckold, always a cuckold. When she has crossed the threshold and no longer is your faithful wife you will have to deal with powerful feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. Consider carefully if you are ready to deal with these feelings before you encourage her to explore her erotic interests with other partners.

Cuckolding solidifies your subordinate position. She has substantial erotic prerogatives that you do not have. Cuckolding also forces you to face the fact that you don't satisfy all of her needs/desires. You must be prepared to acknowledge that her outside interest may be a better and more exciting lover and romantic partner than you. After all, you are the guy who folds her socks and he is the playmate with whom she can let off steam. Is your relationship strong enough that she will compartmentalize her love life and still invest time and energy into maintaining and strengthening your relationship. Are you an attractive enough person and lover so that she will want you to continue as her primary partner. There is inherent risk that cuckolding will result in her leaving you and you must fully understand and weigh that risk against the benefits of cuckolding.

Imagine the strongest feelings of jealousy and inadequacy that you have ever then multiply those feelings by 5, Now do you think you can you handle cuckoldry?

3. Support her in her journey

Cuckolding is scary for her too. She may have spent years out of the dating game and feel ill-equipped to navigate her way. She may be self-conscious about her body and looks and have doubts about her sexual attractiveness. She may fear rejection. It's nerve-wracking to start dating again.

What she doesn't need at this time is an emotionally demanding primary partner. You must do your best to deal with your fears on your own. Devote your energy to pumping up her ego and sense of sexual worth. Praise her beauty, compliment her on her loveliness, and let her know that you find her to be sexy and interesting.

Reassure her that you will continue to support her in her journey and make good on that promise. As she begins dating, you must be emotionally present, someone she can rely upon. Don't pull back emotionally or physically. She needs your support, especially if a lover dumps her or someone spurns her advances.

Do not get caught up in guessing games. If she makes passionate love with you right before or right after she visits a lover, don't torment her (or yourself) with questions such as "is she making love to me and using me as a surrogate for her lover." The truth is that women have ample reserves of erotic energy. Celebrate the generous share that she gives you rather than question its source.

4. Make it fun

Cuckoldry can be great fun. Get involved in grooming her for her dates. Trimming her pubic hair, for example, can be a very strong submissive experience when you know that in a few hours another man will be enjoying the scenery. Help her choose clothes. Better yet, go shopping with her for some sexy clothes that she can wear on dates. Get her an anklet that she can wear on her right ankle to signal that she is a hot wife. Bathe her and then rub her down with perfumed oils before her dates.

When she returns home, welcome her with open arms. Don't pry, but encourage her to describe her adventures. Hold and caress her, reassuring her that you love and support her and will always be there for her. In a wonderfully perverse way, cuckoldry can bring couples to a new level of intimacy.

5. Communicate

Cuckolding is a wonderful opportunity to deepen a female-led relationship. Use the process to share your deepest feelings of love. Be clear in your feelings but be sensitive and supportive of her always. Listen, share and learn. Most of all, follow her lead.

What's in Cuckolding for the Cuckold?

Despite its risks, cuckolding is a powerful way for the submissive man to deepen his submissiveness and strengthen his female-led relationship. Think of cuckolding as the flip side of chastity. Chastity involves holding back the man's erotic energy for the benefit of his Superior. Cuckolding involves freeing the female partner to expand her erotic life.

Chastity is more focused on the man--his cock, his orgasms, his need for release. His Superior certainly benefits from his chastity through improved service, but the man remains the central focus. Cuckolding, in contrast, empowers the woman. She has the power to choose whether and how to explore her erotic interests outside of her primary relationship. The cuckold is in much less control of the situation.

The loss of control inherent in cuckolding accounts for its transformative power for submissive men. It forces them to utilize deep reserves of trust and love to adjust to a subordinate position that may feel new and uncomfortable, at least at first. The cuckold must come face to face with a hard but strangely ennobling reality that his partner is in control of the situation. When cuckolding is added to a chastity regimen, the erotic foundation for a true female-led relationship has been laid.

It is very inspiring for a submissive man to have pledged himself to serve a sexually available and desirable woman. Isn't it an honor to serve a highly sexed woman? Isn't it a privilege that she continues to view you and your relationship as primary no matter how intense her outside affairs become.

Cuckolding is the black belt test of a female-led relationship according to Miss Rabbit.

Back in Springfield, MO. Working two jobs currently, which leaves a lot to be desired when it comes to anything of a personal life! Made some friends at work but haven't had the time to go out and explore the area for clubs and such yet. Hoping to find a better lifestyle group there!

Merry Christmas, Happy Channakah, Super Kwanza, Fantastic Yuletide and Incredible <insert holiday here> Hope your day is great and joyous!

Total of 8 funerals...put two of my God children in the ground last Friday. So needless to say, it's been a rough ride for this community. I've decided to take a leave of absence from work for a bit, and I'm going to St. Louis for a long weekend. Looking forward to going to Six Flags again. Past time for some good 'ol fashion r&r!!

Total dead has gone to 126 with 1500 still missing. They are "hoping" 1000 are just people that haven't checked in. The other 500.......

Completely vanilla.....

Please send your thoughts to those that were hit by the tornado Sunday, May 22 in Joplin, MO.

I was a few blocks from where the tornado hit. (I'm fine.)

But since Sunday night, I've been out doing search and rescue. Then recovery today. Currently we are sitting at 117 confirmed and we're only about 1/3 of the way done.

Personally I have four funerals to plan.

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If you get offended by political jokes, move on!



I am perplexed that so many of my friends are against a mosque being built near Ground Zero. I think it should be the goal of every American to be tolerant. The mosque should be allowed in an effort to promote such tolerance.

That is why I also propose that two gay nightclubs be opened next door to the mosque thereby promoting tolerance within the mosque. We could call the clubs "The Turban Cowboy" and "You Mecca Me So Hot".
 
Next door should be a butcher shop that specializes in pork and have an open barbeque with spare ribs as its daily special. Across the street a very daring lingerie store called "Victoria Keeps Nothing Secret” with sexy mannequins in the window modeling the goods.
 
Next door to the lingerie shop, there would be room for an Adult Toy Shop (Koranal Knowledge?), its name in flashing neon lights, and on the other side a liquor store, maybe call it "Morehammered"? 

If you agree in promoting tolerance and you think this is a good plan, pass it on.

2. Being more interested in your fetishes than your Mistress.

3. Not calling or responding ASAP.

4. Not making sure She knows She matters and is a priority to you.

5. Not devoting yourself to making Her life enhanced by having you as her submissive.

6. Not being honest.

7. Not showing respect at all times.

8. Not being appreciative that She chose you for a submissive.

9. Mistaking politeness for weakness.

10. Assuming She will be like your last Mistress

Well, I'm home from St. Louis, and what a quick vacation it was!
I have a new tattoo started. (It's a cover up, and already have a little over 3 hours invested in it. Probably have another 3+ hours to go. But it's going to be an amazing koi!)
And then there's the new pet!!!! Now this was so much fun! PetsMart parking lot of all places was where W/we met, and the expression on his face when I stepped out of the car in My corset, black jeans, and 4 inch heels! First words I heard him say as he walked up was "Oh wow!". From this remark, I wasn't sure if he was going to remember his place or not, but much to My surprise, he diverted his eyes, became quiet, and started to quiver a bit! Well before this, I had asked on a scale of 1-10 where he was sitting at on being scared, via phone, his reply was only a 7m which wasn't good enough for Me. However, after meeting face to face, I asked this question again, and was told an 11 as his knees became weak! Well the fear this naughty boi was showing was thick enough to bite, and I enjoyed every minute of it! So from here, off to Wal-Mart to purchase 2 new brushes just for his ass! The crops, flogger, and 9 tail I'd brought would come in later! My pet had paid attention, and remembered My favorite color is red, so one of the brushes he chose was red, then a back washer. So off to the hotel, then I sent him to buy some bondage tape. After he arrived back at the hotel room, he set down the bag, and quickly walked over to where I was sitting and dropped to his knees! I instructed him to strip down to the pink thong I'd told him to wear, and present himself to Me. Without thinking, after the clothes were removed, he grabbed his leather belt, put it in his mouth, then walked over to kneel infront of Me again. I grabbed the belt from out of his mouth, and asked, "Did I tell you to put this in your mouth?". A humble reply of, "No Mistress" was given, and a pathetic excuse of it was done out of habit because of how he had been trained before. Needless to say, this didn't go over well with Me. I tossed the belt over with his clothes, grabbed the back washer, and smacked his ass, telling him that from now on he is not to do things just out of habit from his former Mistress, that he now belongs to Me, and that he will learn what I want him to. This back washer was a good investment at first! Just 4 swats, and there were already broken blood vessles on each ass cheek! From this point, I decided to be somewhat forgiving, and had him lay over My lap for a spanking with the red brush. (Knowing this pet had never had an OTK, I knew this would be fun!) I had his use a pillow to help silence his yells, and just spanked his ass to a nice shade of red! Till the handle of the brush broke that is! (Damn cheap crap from China!) So I had him move, I stood up, had him present himself on all fours, and grabbed the back washer again! Well I didn't put a whole lot of strength behind the swats, but pet didn't stay on all fours for long. Since I was in a good mood, and was getting wet, I let this pass, and just continued spanking his ass till, wouldn't you know it, it broke! (Yes, it was from China as well!) Well, at this point, I couldn't help but laugh some under My breath, and I told pet that it had broke, which he then asked if he could speak openly for a few moments, which I agreed to, and laughed himself. Apparently the total number of items broken on his ass is now 9! After hearing this, and still no tears shown, I knew it was time to grab My favorite crop! During this, I scolded pet, and informed him of just how naughty he's been. After a while of this, I acquired what I wanted! TEARS!!! To see and hear this just made Me dripping wet! I knew I would have to use pet's tongue soon! To make a long story a bit shorter, pet followed instructions well, and had Me cumming in only a matter of time! Somehow a fairly vanilla conversation about tattoos came up, so I showed Mine! First the 3 on the back, the 3 on the right leg, then I rolled over on My stomach and showed the one on My left leg. To hear the desire in pet's moan was almost intoxicating! A soft whisper, "May i kiss it?" was made, and I allowed it! My pet allowed himself to get a bit involved in his enjoyment, and allowed his tongue to find My asshole. Enjoying Myself though, I let this slide! I'd almost forgotten how much I enjoyed that! A request was made for Me to sit on his face, and I was just about to do so, when pet oops'ed, and allowed himself to become vanilla for a moment. Which threw a thought back to My head...I was owed some CBT!



There's more to this story, but that's all I'm going to let you perverts read! LOL

Now I had planned on collaring pet before I left to come back home, however, this didn't happen due to a freak accident. But I still own him, and pet knows it's My ass, My mouth, and he is My bitch! The "official" collaring will have to wait till the next time! (Which won't be that long!)

One day you will ask me who I love the most, you or my life...I will answer my life and you will leave saddened...not realising...that you are my life   x

Why is it that soooo many different people feel the need to play games and waste time?

1- If you're looking for online play only, do not send an email.
2- If you're not looking for r/t, do not send an email.
3- If you can't follow instructions, do not send an email.
4- If you can not meet face to face within a fairly short time frame, do not send an email.
5- If you are married, do not send an email.
6- If you can not read a complete profile, and actually comprehend what you read, do not send an email.
7- If you're looking at this lifestyle because you enjoy the kink aspect only, do not send an email.
8- If you're going to lie, and try to be slick, do not send an email. (For the lie will come out!)

Wow, has it really been that long since I last posted something here. :S

The search still goes on to find My picture perfect slave! It's amazing as to how many think they can be it though! Now, you would think that after reading My profile, there would be a certain understanding of what I expect. But silly Me, I'm expecting a brain to be used, and a thought process to be completed. Is that so much to ask?!?!

Well, I'm off to St. Louis for the weekend! Celebrate My B-day, have some fun! To those I'm talking to, I'll talk to you all again soon! To those that are new in writing Me, you'll just have to wait. Have an awesome weekend!!