One ladies profile really intrigued me, even without a photo. Was very interested in a meeting of the "minds" before any meeting of the "meats" & was hoping (in vain as it turns out) for a kind of thoughtful, clarifying online
dialog & ideational exploration.
LOL, got a reply back basically accusing me of "cutting 'n pasting 'n refining" & sending it out to Everybody. Gotta admit, that Big Dummy that I am, I hadn't even thought about that !!!
So always willing to "learn 'n apply" it occured to me that, that was as good idea She had.
Decided to adapt it slightly & instead of "sending it out" to every Femdom & Teri, figured I'd just copy'n'paste it from my sent-box to her & post it here.
So here it is....
Most Esteemed Ms XYZ,
Found your post most fascinating & intriguing. Your inclination for a vanilla lifestyle as an umbrella for an a intimate DS life behind closed doors was like a breathe of fresh air.
How honest & REALISTIC.
Seems like most people on the site are like independently wealthy with no "time-wasting" job they have to go to, with no hobbies, interests or desires other than whipping a slave 24/7 while clad in stereotypically humorous "get-ups" or getting whipped 24/7 while being strung from the rafters or submerged in a sensory deprivation "tank" or somesuch.
I thought I was the only one who thought their was basically LIFE and within LIFE was DS, then I read your profile & felt so relieved that I'm not the only one who thought along these lines.
LOL, thinking I'm the "weirdo" at Collarme.com !!!
If you would be so inclined would like to have a discussion with you about the DS side of "domestic" life that includes "domestic discipline".
It seems that there is basically two kinds of "coupling". The old-fashioned kind with a "Head of Household" and the (probably newer, historically) kind based on "equality".
I guess it really depends on the personalities involved, but, too me, the 50/50 deal is a domestic life of endless strife, struggle against your partner, and bickering.
Traditionally, the HOH has been based on Male supremacy. I don't think it matters whether the HOH family is m/HOH or F/HOH as long as both partners know their "place" & excersize the rights & duties of each well-defined & agreed upon role.
The Dominant naturally having most
all of the "rights" and the Submissive partner having most all of the "duries". Think most hardly consider the limited "duties" of Dom and very limited "rights" of the Sub, but they are part of the equation also.
Since, we both subscribe to the idea's that FemDom is not only better for "coupling", but heck, better for the whole world, will cast all subsequent discussions/correspondence with you in terms of FHOH/male sub. (if you care to extend this to a continuation, heck, I may not even hear back from you. But that's okay as I'm at least organizing/clarify my own mind about this).
The sub male must needs swear & affirm some basic things. Probably best done when he is humbly kneeling with his head between her feet, knocking his forehead thrice for each affirmation (LOL,kind of
Chinese Imperial style head knocking!!!) She has him repeat.
This is very important because
he must be clear in his own mind that his FHOH rules, he "drools" & OBEYS or pays Her price in humiliation & pain.
Following is not complete by any means. This is getting way too long & suffers from a lack of your ideas and thoughts.
I can tell you are an intelligent & thoughtful person & I long to hear your ideas.
1) FHOH decides, he abides. Her decisions are "final". She may occasionally let him decide a little matter (or a big matter), but Her's is the "final" word on all that concerns the "couple".
Being intelligent, FHOH has the "duty" to hear her lowly male "out". Unless, he is a moron, she will "consider" what he has to say about whatever the topic is. What he says may "sway" her decision or it may not.
FHOH is to be OBEYED. Her decision's are
final.
2) FHOH has the right to administer corporal punishment. Domestically, she is cop, judge & jury.
Her male must swear that he will always submit to her discipline. LOL, while he may wriggle around around a bit when he's over her knee, he WILL go over her knee. A few extra hard swats & Her admonition "No wiggling" ought to calm him down.
Resistance too punishment will only make it "worse", much "worse".
3) FHOH has primary right of pleasure & her sub male must devote himself to pleasuring her; how she wants, when she wants, for as long as she wants.
She should get at least a 1/2 hr to an hour of oral daily over several "sessions", including his "breakfast" muffin each &
every morning. She can always get more, all she wants, but "real life" does impinge with work hours, etc.
She "calls" & "controls" all his "squirts". His release is totally dependant on her & her
permission. No permission, no squirtin' or else! If he's been good & gets "lucky" She may
permit him to mount up & orgasm or else she may decide to "milk" him like a dirty animal.
She has the right to have pleasure with any other person she desires, he does not. If she is real smart, she'll pick much, much younger men as "side" mounts. A much younger man will not be threatening to relationship in her Sub's mind. A younger man, in his sexual prime, is "servicing" her Orgasms, like a Stud loosed on Her "pasture" of pleasure.
I apologize, am getting borderline "too naughty" here. LOL, #3 won't be addressed again unless you initiate & "lead" the discussion.
4) Humility. A male must be humble to his FHOH. Guess there is private humility, public humility, sexual humility & non-sexual humility.
Dare I say that back-side oral after She
has bathed or ankle-licking are humble acts?
Each act of humility, while humiliating him, ELEVATES her. FHOH humiliating her male is a very very good thing.
Think that as the male learns Obedience (and the price of non-obedience) the relationship "ripens" nicely & blooms how she wants.
Even the dumbest male quickly learns that dis-obedience is punished until he "obeys" so he might as well just obey Her since her acknowledged right of discipline will always result in his obedience anyways.
Just some initial & very incomplete notions of a really great LTR "coupling" up. I do hope to hear back from you and get your idea's.
Very Respectfully Yours,
