This is NOT a rant. This is a re-posting, with permission, of a post on another site where Girl is active.

However - It may be correctly construed as a Position Statement. I couldnt have said it better myself. So many many men have Dom and domineering confused...having a different chromosome and a penis does not mean you get to tell me what to do......

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This was written in response to a post on a forum....www..com......... The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties. 

You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That's wonderful.

Let me ask you something:

• Do you have a match.com or OK Cupid a profile that says "I'm a guy. I'm looking for a girl. If you're a girl or know a girl, would you send her to me please?"
• Suppose you're into stamp collecting. Do you go into stamp-collecting forums and say "I'm a guy who thinks he may like stamp collecting, and I'm looking for a girl to fuck and teach me about stamp collecting."?
• Do you see a girl at Starbucks drinking coffee and say "Hey, I like coffee, too. Wanna fuck?"

Every time you post on here asking for people to "help you out," that's **exactly** what you're doing.

You seem to think that just because a woman is into getting tied up, beaten, and fucked in the ass, she's somehow different from a "normal" woman. You seem to think that just because a woman likes to have sex, talk about sex, and sometimes be naked in front of people, she should want to do that with you, without knowing anything at all about you except that you like women to get naked in front of you.

Submissives aren't submissive to everyone

You'll hear submissives say "I'm submissive, but I'm not your submissive." No matter how many times you've read The Story of O, there is no chateau full of submissive women who are available on demand to anyone who wants to use them.

Kinky women are not whores

Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them "whore," but they're not sex workers. They're not in the business of making sex of any sort available to all comers. (And contrary to popular belief, there is not a rule that actual sex workers have to accept whoever is willing to pay them.)

Kinky women are not easy

Some kinky women have multiple partners. Some women will do some sort of limited play with people they just met. As a rule most women will not get intimate with a guy they know nothing about. Kinky women are no different.

Kinky women are not objects

Sure, some women like being objectified, to be used as furniture, ashtrays, fuck toys, even toilets. But you know what? The women who like that trust the people who do that to them, Do you know why they trust them? Because they know them as people. They have connected as human beings before they connected as kinksters.

Kinky women have feelings

Do some kinky women want to be humiliated, degraded, hurt, and used? Absolutely. This may be hard to understand, but while they may want all those things, they want them in a supportive, trusting, and caring environment. You call my girlfriend a bitch, she'll kick your balls. I call her a bitch, and she melts in my arms. See the difference?

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Those who Know Me are well acquainted with my love of, and love for, words. That extrapolates out to lyrics as well.
The phrasing, the cadence, the sound to the ear, the feel to the mouth. The words that just seem to match right in with the place you are, have been, or are going.

The lyrics below are from a recording artist named Pink. It is from the album "Funhouse"

It cant get closer to where i am than this...

"Glitter In The Air"

Have you ever fed a lover with just your hands?

Closed your eyes and trusted, just trusted?

Have you ever thrown a fist full of glitter in the air?
Have you ever looked fear in the face and said, "I just don't care"?

It's only half past the point of no return...
The tip of the iceberg,
The sun before the burn,
The thunder before the lightning,
The breath before the phrase...
Have you ever felt this way?

Have you ever hated yourself for staring at the phone?
You're whole life waiting on the ring to prove you're not alone.
Have you ever been touched so gently you had to cry?
Have you ever invited a stranger to come inside?

It's only half past the point of oblivion...
The hourglass on the table,
The walk before the run,
The breath before the kiss,
And the fear before the flames...
Have you ever felt this way?

La La La La La La La La

There you are, sitting in the garden...
Clutching my coffee,
Calling me sugar.
You called me sugar...

Have you ever wished for an endless night?
Lassoed the moon and the stars and pulled that rope tight?
Have you ever... held your breath...
and asked yourself - will it ever get better than tonight?
Tonight...

Things that I might help you see:

1) It is easy to be fun and flirty online when you can be whomever and whatever you choose. However - being a cheat is not sexy to Girl. Your being married, or otherwise committed, put limits on your availability to Girl. This Vexes Girl Muchly! You ask me to manipulate my schedule to accommodate yours...you ask Girl not to wear my fav perfume bc it might linger on you.... you ask Girl not to nip, nibble or otherwise leave marks bc You cant Risk It - but Girl ADORES licking and kissing and nibbling and the occasional badly calibrated nip.

2) speaking of You Cant Risk It -  Have you given any thought to the ramifications of your cheating actions? No, I can tell not. Allow me to point out but a few....Are you prepared to not be invited to your daughter's wedding? you cheated on her mother, she has sided w her; she has met a man who professes to love and care for her and she doesn't want the man who broke her mom's heart to walk her down the aisle. Now you've broken her heart too, most little girls WANT their father to walk them down the aisle on their wedding day. and she cant let you, youre a cheater. so - lets extrapolate that out a bit further, hm? Now she is married. maybe you havent cheated yet. But - are you prepared to forgo being there for the birth of your grandchild? You cheated, you broke Mom's heart, you betrayed her trust and you betrayed your daughter's trust along with that. Most young women would rather have their devoted and much maligned mother there than their cheating rat of a  father. Being a parent is tough...Being a grandparent is the universe's way of paying you back for that hard work. and really? you want to put that in jeopardy to get laid because your wife "doesnt understand your sexual needs"?

3) I am not the one wearing a ring with a vow attached to it, you are. I am not the one feeding your negative karma bank, you are. That said - IF, and this is a large IF, you still feel you have a "specialty" that should be included in Girl's well rounded education; then speak up, Good Sir. as the song says: You dont look ashamed, and baby, I'm not Scared....you dont know how you met me, you dont know why - you can't turn around and say goodbye; all you know is when you're with me, I make you free, and swim through your veins like a fish in the sea. 

02/10/2012: (yes, that is the same# backwards and forwards!) On a day of great pondering about this path I have chosen to explore, the following Speaks To Me....

The Quote is as follows:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

((Nelson Mandela

Inauguration Speech))

[[you cannot go back a day, you cannot go forward a day; you can only be Right Here. Courage is pushing through the first 30 seconds of panic to get to the rewards on the other side. those are my words; you may borrow them. I am going to practice them!]]