Not living the 'lifestyle' ,whatever that means. It seems to have as many definitions as people.
NO longer Married Gentleman looking for mature, confident women of class, character and taste to explore BDSM in the bedroom after and only after we cultivate some sort of bond and chemistry. A friends with benefits if you will,with a sexually and emotionally liberated woman who is strong enough, and sufficiently creative and trusting to explore the deeper aspects of what we generally call BDSM.
The best description I have known of BDSM, D/s is: 'the exploration of the most remote parts of the mind where sexuality and chaos converge'.

The bulleted point list of likes and dislikes, though necessary is in some ways deceptive. I am seeking a friendship of sorts that above all is dictated by open and honest exchanges of thoughts, needs and desires that hopefully will create an environment of physical, sexual and emotional safety in which we can play, experiment and explore without fear of harsh judgment.
I am most attracted to intellect and view body type stipulations as secondary to emotional and intellectual attraction.
If interested then please write. Im in no hurry except to make friends.