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About Me:
1) I am FtM and also gender-fluid. If you don't know what that is, or how those two things can co-exist, then don't bother reading the rest of this. I have a pretty complicated relationship with my gender, and will explain it more to those I feel get it.
Chasers should leave. Now. My transness is a huge part of me that I need my partners to embrace, but I'm not interested in being fetishized for it.
2) For the record, although I checked "bisexual," my sexual orientation is actually queer. I am far more interested in the tissue between your ears than in the tissue between your legs.
Also, while I am definitely looking for certain types of people, there is no box for "Trans Switch," which is really fucked up. So I have everything I'm looking for checked but that.
Other transfolks of all stripes get preference simply because of our shared experiences, as well as other queers. I find cis women attractive, too, but cis men have to be pretty special to get my attention. Also, if your sexual orientation precludes men and/or queers, forget it. I am no one's girlfriend. Period.
3) I am very political and outspoken. I am also ridiculous and appreciate dark humor. That said, I also have a very serious side to me and often repress/shut down my emotions. Those who know me best have described me as Spock-like which I feel is very apropos.
4) I'm having a very difficult time dealing with my body and therefore right now I'm pretty much a stone-top. This may change, slowly, over time, and with the right amount of trust, but not for now.
5) I am a switch, but am really needing to explore my Dom/sadist side. I have some specific interests, but we can talk about yours and mine at the same time and see if they mesh. I really hate big, long laundry lists when it really comes down to this: I am sadistic, but I'm not really into the fancy BDSM-gear stuff. I would rather go to the hardware store and buy perfectly innocuous-looking things and turn them into bondage or torture devices. >:-)
What I'm Looking For:
I am looking to build a few solid relationships that will hopefully turn into a poly family at some point in the future when we can actually just have our own "house of queer."
While I have a few things in mind, I'm pretty open to meeting who I meet and going from there... so if you find me interesting, send me a message. I will respond if it suits me.
However............. there are a few MAJOR rules that everyone must follow to be considered by me:
1) You are emotionally stable and non-dramatic. I'm fine with people having life struggles, but you must be struggling with things in a sane and sensible way. Anyone who tries to start drama with me will be told to call/message back when they've cooled down and grown up a little.
2) I will gladly fight the world tooth and nail for people who are worth it, but I won't fight you to be with you. You either want to be with me or you don't, and I am not going to chase you or beg you to stay with me. I am far too pragmatic for those sort of games.
3) You are willing to submit to me if you take on one of my "subbie" roles and actively and cheerfully give me control. I am not going to fight you for control; if I start feeling like you aren't respecting me or our dynamic, I will dismiss you. I.e. - No bratting.
4) You will always be honest with me, even if you're afraid I won't like it. I am an exceptionally reasonable person, and I would rather deal with the reality of the situation than be supposedly "blissfully ignorant." I will always be honest with you, ergo I expect the same in return.
These are all really basic things... but they are must-haves. I won't do a relationship without them.
Now for the roles I am looking for. I am looking for three full, solid relationships.
The Lover:
You are a Switch and proud of it. You are on equal terms with me, and feed my switchy/subbie/masochistic side as well as my Dom/sadist side. We do not compete for power, as our love is both romantic and friendly, and our dynamic is strong, but primarily sexual. My subs will respect you, but are separate from our relationship and you do not get control of them.
My pet:
You are fun and sexual, as well as masochistic. Our dynamic is lifestyle and you will be expected to be sub to me as much as makes sense. You help me explore my Dom-ishness and my body as well as are an outlet for my sadism. More to come later... this one is pretty open.
My doll:
This is the most specific role. You are my outlet for my intense love of fashion. While I am open to having a doll of any gender/sex/sex-assignment (etc.), you WILL be expected to wear the feminine clothing I put on you. I love feminine clothing but am not female or feminine-identified and therefore cannot personally handle wearing any of it. This makes me sad and will be fixed when I find a doll who can fit all (or most of) my old stuff. Strong preference is given to those who have a "little" side, especially a little girl side. You will be expected to be sweet, present nicely and be adorably submissive. While I will use pain as a punishment/correction tool, having a masochistic streak is not necessary.
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