I'm looking for a mistress with whom I can ideally have a meaningful relationship, not just a brief BDSM session.

A lady who understands how to use teasing and denial to create desperation and frustration, and at the same time give hope that the frustration *might* be satisfied given enough service
and good behaviour.
She really would hold all the cards, and once she has that power it's up to her what to do with it, and she can mould her sub (slave?) to serve exactly as she wants him to... femdom is a beautiful thing.

I do have experience of a femdom relationship, beginning as a switch dynamic, but each time we switched the femdom became more intense. Being physically stronger, and having experienced taking pleasure from someone, and then having them take control and dictate the flow of the relationship, particularly the physical aspects, was a confusing and frustrating experience, but also an addictive one.

It's that confused addiction that has me searching for another opportunity to live that lifestyle; to find a woman who can be a true femdom mistress to me.
That's why I need it to be a real relationship, and not just an online one; to truly submit to her, both physically and mentally, requires obsession, even love.
I need someone who can be both cruel and kind, uncompromisingly strict and ruthless, but also fair, and perhaps on occasion even generous.
Someone who can use physical and mental bondage, chastity, teasing and orgasm control, to create the perfect mix of frustration and gratitude, desperation and devotion, hope and acceptance, using denial and control to paradoxically make me ever more desperate to please, and ever more grateful when given the opportunity to do so.

I'm tall, slim build, fit and healthy.
I'm self employed, with my own small company, and am well paid, as well as having the option of plenty of free time.
I would expect to eventually be serving my mistress both domestically and financially, as well as the more sexual overt BDSM way. (This means my partner taking financial control of our relationship, NOT me sending money to a stranger online)

Pictures available on request.