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| I'm a professional, self employed graphic artist who recently relocated to the coast from Kansas City. I'm just getting to know the area around here and I'm hoping to find someone who I can spend time with and enjoy good food, stimulating conversation, and who knows what else may come, if the passion is there?
I have learned some very important lessons in my past relationships. One of the most essential truths I have come to embrace is that I will not be happy in a long term relationship with someone who does not complement me sexually. As much as I have tried to put it to the side, I am a very open minded and adventurous lover, and even if everything else was in place, if I am in a relationship that is too sexually timid, I find myself feeling less and less "in love", and that's not a fair thing for either partner.
So here I am, a Switch Male, looking for a Female Switch. I don't limit myself to one particular type of persona, and I don't limit myself to one particular kink. I would find being with someone who can only be a dominant ball crusher to be just as suffocating as being with someone who is submissive and can't step outside their comfort zone to take charge for an evening. I do have my own tendencies, as I am sure most of us do, and I tend to enjoy being submissive more, but I also very much enjoy pushing my own boundaries with trying out a dominant and assertive persona. I would find myself satisfied only with a woman who possessed that same sense of self-exploration.
To me, the Kink and BDSM elements of my desires is not a Fetish per se. I don't need anything kinky to be turned on. I love silk sheets and soft, teasing embraces, just as much as I love Rubber Sheets and latex gloves. One night I may want to have a night of French Vanilla Sex. The next time, maybe it's something wicked and raunchy. Another night perhaps we just save ourselves up and see how much we can tease one another until the next time we can experience the release together.
If you can't tell yet, I am looking for something more than a sexual partner. Sometimes that is how a relationship can start, so I'm not limiting myself, but I am here to let you know that I am ultimately seeking something deeper. A spiritual, emotional, mental and physical connection with someone, a partner to come along with me on the adventure of life. While I have hesitated to post a profile on a site like this, I realize that my sexual preferences are anything but ordinary, and I will find it harder and harder to meet someone who "gets me" on an average dating site.
So please, no solicitations for paid sessions etc. I see my Kinks as a means to an end, rather than an end in and of themselves. What I mean to say is that I believe being kinky with a partner that completely accepts and embraces your kinks, will create an even deeper and more intense bond between the two of you, and it is that bond I seek. The strap-on play and rope bondage (all very enjoyable to me btw) is the icing on the cake, it is the waves and ripples of the ocean at the surface. But those "things" would mean nothing to me outside of the context of a loving and respectful relationship. I don't want or need to have someone simply spank me and dress me up in lingerie. I want to find myself in the company of a woman who loves me for who I am and enjoys the rush of intimacy that comes from sharing in those experiences together.
Because I am looking for more than a play date, I want to include a few other things you should know before going any further.
I am an extremely athletic man. I have been working out for as long as I can remember, and it is an absolutely essential part of my life. But I am also not obsessed with it. If I miss a workout it's not the end of the world, and if I decide I want ice cream for dessert, I have it. I really want to be with a woman who also works out regularly, someone who keeps themselves fit. I prefer a thicker woman to a skinny girl, but there is something different about a woman who exercises - you can see it in her shape, and you can see it in her personality. I want to be with a woman who can go to the gym, kick her own ass, and then say to herself, that was hard, but I'm going to do it again next week, because I can tell it was good for me. That is one of the biggest turn-ons in the world. Maybe your thing is Yoga, maybe Pilates, maybe you like kickboxing, or running, or weightlifting. Whatever route you go, I would like to see that it's something important to you and that you take care of yourself and try to stay in great shape, while at the same time knowing life is too short to live at the gym every day and eat nothing but chicken breast and broccoli.
I am an ex-smoker, so please know that if you are a smoker, I would find it a turn off, and at the same time I would crave the smoke myself, so it would be a double problem for me. I know what it's like to be hooked, and I'm not judging you, I just know it would make it hard for me.
I drink once or twice a month, and I like to use a little bit of drugs here and there. I am first and foremost committed to living a sane life, but I also realize that a little exploration and a little intoxication can be a fun thing. So please, if you are adamantly against drug use, please move on, and at the same time, if you can't enjoy watching a movie without being high, please move on also.
I am a huge animal lover. I have a cat and would love to have a dog, but my current apartment has limitations on dogs. If you can't stand cats, then you probably wouldn't like dating me.
If you're still with me, and you're the kind of woman who is hoping to find something meaningful in a relationship, and you also realize that you will never be a vanilla kind of girl, then we both owe it to ourselves to get to know each other better. Drop me a line and let me know what made you decide to contact me. I look forward to meeting you....
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