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It's hard to offer something of value if not working toward a mutually beneficial relationship, so anyone I choose to "play" with will be looking for more than a one-night stand and will recognize that being a Dom or a Master is a huge responsibility. Kinky sex is fun and all (oh, who am I kidding, I'm a total slut) but without that intimate connection, I find it empty.
That said, I think it's just as important, if not more so, that we have commonalities outside the BDSM realm, that we connect emotionally and intellectually, as it is that we have the same philosophies about D/s dynamics.
I love the outdoors, I'm passionate about the environment, I'm socially liberal but try to think for myself instead of toeing the party line.
I'm a very creative, tactile, kinesthetic person. I knit, sew, bake, cook, paint, play with fabrics and fibers, and find myself capable of building things if I have the right tools.
I will respond to emails that indicate some level of intelligence, (spelling and grammar COUNT) or that you've at least read my profile. I won't accept chat invitations until we've established that we actually have something to chat about.
Thank you,
ella
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I was browsing through profiles and skimming over the activities listed when I read, from a Dom, that he "tolerates" knitting. "Tolerates" knitting??? What's to tolerate? Knitting is useful, creative, productive, and has been known to help people stop smoking, stop biting their nails, and stop snacking constantly. Knitting can provide clothing and warmth. And, if all else fails, 4 Double-pointed needles and some tiny rubber bands make for some very interesting, painful, and strong nipple clamps.
New profile pic... |
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Oh, look at that. Yes, I'm in San Diego again. My life has been pretty chaotic over the last few years, Can you tell?
Everything's starting to settle down a bit. I think. |
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Finally heading home to LA in a couple of weeks, and I CAN'T WAIT. A series of unusually dreadful health problems has kept me from doing any playing while I've been in Utah, but that's ok, because ultimately "playing" just leaves me empty.
I'm still focusing on my own growth and my career, and trying to be open to someone who wants to take the journey with me.
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I know, I know, my pics disappeared. I still see them when I go in to edit my profile, so I'm guessing it's just that I added a bunch of new ones and they have to be approved. If the problem doesn't fix itself in the next couple of days. I'll start over.
ella |
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I recently received a rather interesting -- and by "interesting", I mean "idiotic" -- message from a self-titled Dom who professes to be mean and extreme. In his message to me, he said, and I quote, "you're an uppity bitch that needs to be put in her place."
Aside from the obvious grammar problem, can anyone think of a reason why I might not, perhaps, not be interested?
I get messages similar to this from time to time, men calling me a "poser" or telling me that I'm "not a real submissive" and I always wonder why they bother.
Do they think my self-esteem is so low that I will snap up their offers to teach me how to be a "real" slave? And if so, what could possibly be appealing about mastery of a girl who hates herself that much?
I'm still holding out for a man secure enough in his authority that he doesn't have a problem with me being the smart, feisty, strong, talented, gorgeous, brilliant woman that I am.
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Spending some time in Utah over the holidays, and looking for a non-idiot for some good kinky fun. I'm sort of sick of the search for "The One" and I would really love to be fucked and beaten like the slut that I am.
Message me if you are smart enough to take me on. |
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It's been a while since I said anything, so I figured, why not?
Honestly I'm feeling rather disillusioned lately. Perhaps disillusioned isn't quite the right word, because I do think I have a reasonably realistic view of who I am and what I want. And I like to think that I'm not asking too much, but perhaps I am.
To find a man who recognizes what a great task it is to take on the responsibility of mastering another human being, who isn't just looking for an easy way through life, and who understands himself well enough to master himself, is proving to be quite a challenge.
So I'll continue to lurk, but need something more impressive than "hey gorgeous" to inspire me to respond to you.
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Just saw "Waitress". I'm in love with Nathan Fillion. Again.
Do you think he's a Dom?
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here's a hint: if you send me a message, not only do spelling and grammar count, but so do syntax, punctuation, paragraphing, and structure, with allowances made for style. |
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I don't know if I'm just being perverse, but seeing a book on the New York Times Bestseller List seems to me to be a pretty good reason NOT to buy it. |
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Guys! Make a chart or something! I got the same email from you a week ago and it didn't impress me then! |
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I must say, it's terribly flattering that I am so memorable that I get the IDENTICAL emails, repeatedly, from the same people.
And one would think that if someone WAS going to spam a large number of women with identical emails, he would at least check it for grammar and spelling first. |
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For those of you who think that my journal entries are too bitchy and ranty and not "subby" enough, pblblblblblblbl. Or however that is spelled.
The thing is, it's really easy to use this forum to rant about a steady stream of idiocy than it is to suddenly feel extraordinarily submissive and use this forum to -- I don't know, act submissive? There's only so much virtual kneeling a girl can do, and then it's time to move on.
I am a fully-formed, multi-dimensional, adult woman. I am opinionated, bossy, intelligent, and moderately well-read. I have friends and a career and beliefs and hobbies and habits. I'm not waiting for the other piece of the puzzle.
I am a submissive. Someday, hopefully, I will meet that rare man who has the right balance of intelligence, humility, authority, and strength who welcomes the challenge of creating in me the complement to all that He is.
"Do I contradict myself?
Very well, then, I contradict myself;
(I am large -- I contain multitudes)" |
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If you don't get a response from me, it's likely either that: 1) I'm busy; or 2) my response is "Yippee-fucking ki-yay" but I'm too polite to say that. |
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i would have responded to you, but your profile made me yawn.
ok, ok, so i'm being kind of a bitch lately. i'm new here, so i'm getting a lot of attention, and an inordinate amount of mail, most of which is not even worth the time it takes to open.
i mean really, what kind of response do you expect from me when the only thing you can come up with to say is "hi"? Or when i receive EXACTLY the same email from you, three days in a row?
excuse me, i need to go practice pranayama. |
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here's a tip:
If you email me, your email better damn well indicate, in some way other than by saying "I read your profile" that you have ACTUALLY READ and UNDERSTAND my profile.
I do not accept chat invitations.
Sub men repulse me.
I am a submissive. I am not YOUR submissive. Don't be surprised to find me rude if you are an idiot.
I am not here to write spank material for you. If you want to begin a conversation with me, try to come up with something more original than "Tell me your deepest darkest fantasy."
If you send me an email saying nothing more than "nice profile" or "hot pics" don't be surprised when I don't respond.
If your email says nothing about you, and your profile says nothing about you, then I can only assume that there is nothing worth knowing about you.
Okay, so that was really more of a rant. |
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