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If you are not totally jaded by now after being on this site...annoyed, insulted, frustrated, disappointed, saying WTF is up with people or think most of the men on here are fake online posers, pervs who can not distinguish properly between fantasy and real life, you would be right... but if you still have a burning inside to find Him...you should keep reading.

If the words beautiful, connection, bond-like-no-other come up when you think of a Ds relationship, kink, BDSM, lifestyle matters then you are probably my type.

I am a Dom who values the dynamic, both physical and mental, good communication, have many interests within the lifestyle and much beyond.

So if you know that you will not truly be fulfilled in life if you do not find a worthy Man who has integrity, authority, be a source of devotion, guidance, approval, protectiona light to shine over her submissionwe should start a conversation.









What I truly seek is a submissive or slave partner that is settled in her place, is proud, certain of the girl she is meant to be, the life she is meant for, preferably experienced in the lifestyle enough to know this is the only way to be and live a life filled with meaning.  Naturally living this life 24/7, enjoying all aspects together!

*TIP: Being a Dom is NOT being an asshole.  This is for most of the men on this site, that are not reading this, that is the most basic thing if you live this life, which all subs already knows.
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If you are inspired by my profile or our conversation, take your time, this site as we all know does not work well.  Emails get undelivered, sometimes are sent multiple times and photos almost never get delivered for me.  As well as being busy and not being on here all that much.  Don’t just disappear if you get frustrated and draw your own conclusions.  The best thing is again, to be patient and when in doubt…ask to clarify.  There is so much nonsense on here that when there is a spark or reason to believe potential has potential, it is very frustrating when you storm off because of your projected general frustration.  I can assure you I am authentic, an experienced Dominant with skills and principled intentions, but also not for everyone, if I am a match for you, your patience will reward you manifold.  If not, you may contact me when you are ready to give a connection a real chance.
There are more molecules of water in a cup of water than there are cups of water in the ocean.  Did you know that?
ok...Nate is starting to get close...stay safe all those in it's path...
For all you who have asked; I have relocated to New Orleans but do still spend time in Colorado throughout the years.
The pictures I send don't go through...is that happening to anyone else?
HAPPY MARDI GRAS!
Would you like some wine? (The Mad Hatter) Yes (Alice)  We haven't any and you're too young.  (The Mad Hatter) Moral of the story, don't promise what you can't (or won't) deliver, be your authentic self. Keep your word. Integrity is gold in the form of virtue.
What would you do if you had to choose ONLY one, between being with someone who you Love deeply or being with someone who you live deeply as a sub or slave with a connection?
This site and the quality of sincere people has really gone down consistently over the years. It was never at a high level but it seems more and more there is not much left here at CM/CS...This lifestyle can be so beautiful and bonding, creating rich connections but that potential on this site seems to be fleeting...
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.  ― Anas Nin
WELL...it has been a long time since I have been on CM...I mean collarspace.  Nice to see old friends and new people...

Genuine beauty of submission lies not in the act but in the will.

"What you can BECOME depends on what you can OVERCOME."

~Anthony Douglas Williams

“ In the realm of ideas, everything depends on enthusiasm; in the real world, all rests on perseverance. ”

 ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

Fall is in the air in Colorado...Aspens changing, sunny, crispy, change is in motion...

Neurosis is the suffering of a soul which has not discovered its meaning.

 

Carl.Gustav. Jung

Words on Father's Day.

A Father is someone who
 wants to catch you before you fall
 but instead picks you up,
 brushes you off,
 and lets you try again. 



A Father is someone who
 wants to keep you from making mistakes 
but instead lets you find your own way,
 even though his heart breaks in silence 
when you get hurt. 



A Father is someone who
 holds you when you cry,
 scolds you when you break the rules,
 shines with pride when you succeed, 
and has faith in you even when you fail...

Suffering is the sandpaper of our incarnation. It does its work of shaping us.

“Judgement comes from experience. Experience comes over time, from realizing poor judgement.”

"I am not what happened to me, I am what i choose to become."

~Carl Jung

 

Sunday morning on CM, I wonder how many people will complain about all the fake, flakes, wanna-bees today...although it is well deserved.

 

I think it is an inevitable reality in this lifestyle, the majority percent are perverts indulging behind a screen or young and want to explore and play with no real commitment or consequence.  We are a small number that are hear to find a match and use CM as a tool to bring this dynamic and relationship into RT Life.

How long has it been since someone touched part of you other than your body?

To a great 2013 and all it's possibilities!

So many of our dreams at first seems impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.

 

Fake people have a an image to maintain, real people don't give a shit.

 
Fake people become threatened when their image is challenged, angry and out of control emotionally when their persona is not accepted.  When their persona is called out,  identified as fraudulent, they are left with nothing, vulnerable, alone and lost.  In many cases their ego can't handle it, so they double down and become aggressive.
 
REAL authentic people don't change with the change around them, unless judgment and wisdom shows a new way, are not bothered or influenced by mere opinions of people around them.  The acceptance of others is not an equation in their sense of who they are…they are firm and rooted in their Self, unaffected by the changing tides...

One can pay back the loan of gold, but one dies forever in debt to someone who has lifted them up, allow them to be the person they long to be, showed them kindness and led them to reach new heights.  

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” 


~Anais Nin



Finally cooling off in Colorado...ahhhhhhhh

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it...What you seek is seeking you"

 

~Rumi

Was out last night...had a real nice time, talked and met some pretty ladies...BUT somehow, my interest stays limited, knowing that most likely a relationship with these ladies would be vanilla, possibility a bit more but probably not that type of dynamic and bond that can be created living in a D/s way.  At times, I think to myself that they can be converted but if a person is not ready or does not want to go deeper in this way, or perhaps just not wired to be in this kind of life...it is a fruitless effort.

I have read and know that many subs and/or slaves are overwhelmed with so many emails, Doms or "so called Doms" writing rude things, assume that they can treat you as a submissive without ever knowing you or developing a bases for this type of relationship.  Men, who use this site and context to feel like they can talk to someone sexually and feel like they are empowered.  Send emails to anyone who they see like a feeding frenzy, trying to convince you they are the one for you without even reading your profile to know what you are searching for or convince you that you are looking for something different.  Giving you senseless advice what to do without knowing your story of how you got to where you are now and how to help get you to where you may need to go.  Not to mention writing with spelling and grammatical mistakes, not that that defines a person, but who wants to be with someone who doesn't take the time to create an approach in a meaningful way, be detailed oriented and consider this search one of great importance...someone you can respect and look up to?

 
This is unfortunate, it seem like it makes the subs here tune out, get discouraged and get so overwhelmed that they miss the emails that have potential compatibility.  For me, part of the appeal here and this lifestyle, is that we all (well, not all) are trying to be authentic and excepting in who we are deep down inside.  It is hard enough to do that, to break out of social constraint, constraint of an image of who we think we are or used to be or who we think we should be...
 
WHAT IS THE POINT?  Just a journal entry to express an observation and hope that if you are reading this and feel frustrated with all the people and correspondence you have been experiencing, you should know that there are Doms out here who are REAL, have good intensions, can empathize with the opposite side of the power spectrum, and have the best interest for you...during play, after play, in a vanilla setting, and anywhere else you can think of.