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Hetero Male Dominant, 47,  San Rafael, California
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While I am still single and interested in finding the right partner I am not looking for Hookups, casual playmates or being in a relationship with someone I just like. Im only still looking around CM because some of you wonderful submissive treasures write incredible and intelligent journal posts that entertain, educate and inspire those that read them. So if Im creeping around online or adding you to my favorites its because I want come back and read something that caught my eye. Usually Ill message and compliment the post but not as an intro into trying to hook up. I enjoy quality conversation with intelligent people male or female, Dom or Sub. Friendships with witty and intelligent people always welcome.
Looking for filthy toys to play with, Cerebral and intelligent, forceful when appropriate but not puffed up like a juvenile wannabe. I am not adverse to more than play partners, but not looking to Date just anyone. So if it happens that I meet an appropriately nasty deviant sub or slave with a sharp mind and vivid imagination, I probably wouldnt let her get away. That being said, I am highly sexual and need an outlet for it.
I enjoy the mental aspect of the scene over any other facet (OK, any facet other THAN kinky sex). Women are so cerebral in their sexuality, most would rather read a well written erotic story over watching that same story played out(however poorly acted) in a porn video. Of course most men are polar opposites, visual stimulation being a males preferred medium. Now I enjoy porn as much as the next guy but as an aspiring writer the written word is near and dear to me. Ironic that Ive left my Profile looking as barren as surface of the moon. Ive always had a preference for intelligent, imaginative women. In fact if I ranked the qualities I value most in a woman, those 2 come first followed by sense of humor(particularly the ability to laugh at ones self) then sexualitysensuality, compassionempathy, and finally physical beauty. Here is the truly wonderful thing about all of you incredibly smart and witty submissive women that populate the Bay area. You take more time and effort to engage and develop a relationship with, but you are a priceless treasure when that connection is made. I believe trust is earned rather than demanded, and being submissive doesnt equate to mindlessly obeying anyone speaking to you in a stern tone. I believe that engaging a submissive womans mind will bind her to you tighter than chains of steel ever could.Of course they still need to feel the tight grasp of your hand knotted in their hair and the lick of your favorite flogger or whip, some more than others. This is one part of the lifestyle that I am admittedly still novice, but my kinky tool kit grows weekly, and I know my responsibilities as the Top in the play session, and for the aftercare.

What I seek is not easily defined, or I should say, its fluid and changing as I grow in the lifestyle. I would like to find a submissive that I connect with on a deeper level than playsex. I do not think I am looking for a poly relationship, but then again, I didnt even know what a poly relationship was two years ago so what do I know...) I am open to play partners because I am a guy and my Libido took steroids when I wasnt looking, but my emphasis is on finding A partner rather than Many Partners. To really be able to push a submissive to new places and expand her boundaries requires trust, which requires healthy communication. Focusing on one submissive, investing the time to get to truly know her, will reward you quicker than spreading yourself among multiple women in my opinion. I am blessed to be from The kink capital of the world, San Francisco, and the gatherings and social events are many. There are tons of venues to explore and meet others in our lifestyle, but I havent gotten the opportunity to do much of that. I plan on rectifying that, it was a New Years Resolution of mine. I love to read and am working on writing a novel as well. I have a sharp wit and do not readily suffer fools, but I can be self deprecating and this keeps me from being too hard edged. I live by three credos 1) You are what you do when no ones looking. 2) No one gets to choose the cross they bear, but you can choose how you bear it. 3) A wise man understands how little he truly knows. I was raised catholic, and while I still have faith in God, I find the church to be morally bankrupt so I identify as spiritual now, for whatever thats worth.
Big Sports fan. Love Sci-Fi and fantasy. Addicted to ID network. Very rarely do I drink, do not smoke cigarettes, but I am 420 friendly, but not on the Jeff Spicolly Im so wasted level.

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 Dominant Male

 San Rafael 


 6' 2"

 260 lbs






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