New to the bdsm scene . Bi male , I am a bottom. I know by nature, bottoms are submissive. But I call myself a submissive bottom. I think that means I want to go beyond just giving primary sexual pleasure, receiving anal , giving oral and rimming a sexual partner. I love doing those things and don't want to exclude them from activities. How much pain and domination do I need or seek? What exotic sexual pleasures does that extra bdsm bring to a dom male or domme female, or for me? That is what I need to learn I quess.