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| This is my favorite literary passage about BDSM. It's from David Foster Wallace's Brief Interviews with Hideous Men,and I find it instructive:
What is being communicated now is a certain authoritative command based solely on contractual experience as I inform the subject that I am going to instruct her. I radiate an expertise that may, I admit, to someone of a particular psychological makeup, appear menacing. All but the most hardened subjects begin asking me what it is I want them to do. I, on the other hand, very deliberately exclude the word want and its analogues from my instructions. I am not about expressing wishes or asking of pleading or persuading here, I inform them. That is not what this is about.
I always phrase it as This is what you are to do, You are to do such-and-such and so on and so forth. I tell them how to stand and when to turn and how to look at me. Articles of clothing are to be removed in a certain very particular order.
The order is less important than that there is an order, and that they comply.
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