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| First off, yes...I am submissive (a little) but it definitely does not mean I am a doormat. Nor does it mean that I want every dom out there to message me wanting to hook up. I am looking for like minded people that I can build friendships with, possibly find the Daddy I need and want(For those who do not know what a DD is, go here: http://daddystendertouch.tumblr.com/Whatisadaddy )...those people who can accept the our inner “freaks” and hopefully share and learn from. One thing I will ask of Doms contacting me, please know I am looking for a Daddy Dom and I am not really interested in couples play. I've tried poly and have found that it just is not really my cup of tea. Also, if you're just looking to start your own harem with women everywhere...keep going because this is my corner and I don't want you polluting it. Do not take that as me being pushy or assume I am unfriendly. I really am not. I am a pretty outgoing person with a pension for humor. Above all, you need to know that my number one rule...you will have to conquer my mind before I even consider giving my body.
A little bit about me? I guess you can say I am perfectly imperfect. I am a contradiction of sorts...feminine yet not, dominant career wise but submissive, hard headed but soft, likes camo yet adores my passion for frilly under clothes...that yes, they have to match or my eye starts to twitch grins, complex but simple. I am somewhat a geek in the sense I love sci fi (Doctor Who, star wars, LOTR, etc...it makes me feel all squishy inside lol), video games, computer games. Above all, I truly believe in the fact we should be able to laugh at ourselves. Seriously...if you’ve never laughed during sex...you aren’t doing it right hehe. As for TTWD (this thing we do), I am not exactly new nor uneducated but there is so much I have yet to learn or experience. I am still very much exploring and learning to embrace the “darker” or...Little side of myself. While traveling this road, hopefully I will make friends who have the same goals. As a sub, I do take care to know what I am looking for...we all should. And no...I am not able to relocate but doesn't mean I am against ldr or online.
And another note...just because it says I am looking for a Daddy Dom, it does not mean you have to be old enough to be my Father. I have one thanks and looking for someone that I have something in common with and whom I could possibly have a relationship with so closer to my age I would be ideal (I've even done younger)...but definitely not pushing 15, 20 years my senior. I may make an exception for someone I connect with.I do ask though, that no matter what, if you contact me as a potential Dominant seeking a sub...know yourself, know what you want and leave the games at the door.
FYI, due to my vanilla life (kid, work, family, etc) I do not have a picture of my self on here. But, I am willing to send/trade by email.
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The number of fakers on this site is really a huge disappointment. It's actually very...disheartening. If you just want sex, go to Adult Friend Finder. If you just want to amuse yourself because your marriage is lacking...porn sites. Another disheartening thing...the lack of knowledge so many of you who call yourself Dom's and the apparent inability to read. Seriously. |
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Fantasy vs. Reality
With so much available to us now...blogs, tumblr, google...it is very easy to "fall in love" with the idea of D/s or, for me, the DD/lg lifestyle. On any of those sources, you can find beautiful pictures, poetry and stories about how absolutely beautiful it can be. You will come across pictures that show the most loving of scenes between a Daddy and his little girl. Stories and testimonies that tell, in the most intimate of detail, about the safety, comfort, love and acceptance found in the solace of a Dom's arms. Wonderful GIFs that express the utter joy that comes from being owned, being taken. Images and words fuel the mind. They give us fantasies, glimpses into our most ultimate desires. They can often erase or ease past hurts, make us forget, cover the reality that is outside our doors.
But, what about that reality? The reality in all of those things...the pictures, the stories, the testimonies, is that before any of those moments can be made real, we have to accept the truth. A D/s relationship, no matter the dynamic, is first and foremost just that...a Relationship. It has the same pitfalls, hurdles and mountains to climb as a normal "vanilla" relationship. Work, home life that can sometimes include children, the outside world constantly butting in, Car repairs, house work, illness, pet problems...that list could go on for an eternity, you get the jist there I would think. But to muddy the waters even more, throw in the more complex responsibilities that come with a D/s relationship. Rules and guidelines that are often outside the norm, the demands and responsibilities that come with both submission and domination. It can sometimes be a seriously rocky road or slippery slope.
Do not get me wrong, I am confessed tumblr addict. I love the blogs I follow. I am and always have been a sponge when it comes to learning or reading more when it comes to this lifestyle. I love all the "rainbow" pictures and "glass slipper" posts, they exemplify the desires I have in a relationship...the ultimate peace that I do know can only be found with a good Dominant to guide me. But, I am also ever-mindful of the reality in things. It is not a cake walk. It is not easy. It will not always been sunshine and happiness. There will be stumbles. I will disappoint at times, so will he. I won't always get my way, neither will he. There will be times when I don't quite feel "up" to being a sub just as there will times when he may feel like taking a breather from guiding me or picking me up off the ground. That is just the way life goes. For a lack of better terms, shit happens and it happens often. If the relationship is indeed reality based and not based on a fantasy, the hard moments will pass and the rainbows will come out again. |
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Ok seriously, do yourself and all a subs a favor. Just because you like to get your way and like kinky sex...that does NOT make you a Dom. While there are no "set rules" about how to go about living in the lifestyle, there are guidelines, traits that do constitute a Dom and what a sub needs in a Dom...basics if you will. Before you go calling yourself a Dom and start contacting submissives, know the difference between controlling and having control. If your just into kinky sex, say so. I've seen a lot of "false advertising" on here and honestly...its quite off putting for a single sub. It is even more off putting when you contact someone who is looking for a Daddy Dom and you really have no vote what that is either. If you're curious...ask. I am more than happy to talk about my dynamic of choice but don't say you're a DD and have no clue what it really is. And for the love of all that is holy...NO it has nothing to do with incest. |
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Respect. This should be a given right? I mean, its a basic, fundamental thing. We are all supposedly taught to respect others as they respect you. You get it if you give it. Seeks pretty simple.
Sadly, as of late, its actually a wanted commodity. In what way is it respectful to joke in the face of someone else's sadness? In what way is it respectful to disquise yourself as a Dom when in truth you really just want your own way and se,...with no real care about the other person? In what way is it respectful to lie? Advertising yourself as a gentleman when very clearly you're not?
Truth? There is no respect in any of those situations. A Dom should first and foremost care for and respect a submissive. We are strong creatures, worthy of that. If it is just kinky sex you are looking for, go browse through ads on Craigslist. Just sex is not respect or caring. It is you wanting to fulfill the basic need of getting off. Well, we all need a toilet, whether it be a porcelain one in a home, an outhouse, a bucket outside or a hole in the ground. We need that to fulfill the body's need to get rid of waste. We don't care for or respect a toilet, do we? Nope, its just an object.
Submissives are more than just toilets...more than objects. We deserve the utmost care and respect. A Dom cannot be a dominant without a submissive, just as a sub cannot submit without a Dom. It's a 2 way street, not one way. Remember that. |
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