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Pan Female Slave, 30,  Plainfield, Illinois
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A few things to get out of the way: I am NOT single. I am engaged. We are poly. He is and will always be my primary. I am a bisexual, sadomasochistic switch. I have 3 cats. If you hate cats, you'll probably hate me, too. I have well over a decade of experience. I am not new. I am not a doormat. I don't put up with drama or BS. I have a full time job. I will not be available to you at all times. If you are intimidated by intelligence, I will terrify you. If you're still reading, congratulations! You're not an asshole (probably). I am a submissive, masochistic woman. I am plus size. I'm comfortable in my body, but I'm also open to change if that's your sort of thing. I have a sarcastic, snarky sense of humor. I enjoy learning. I am introverted, but that doesn't mean I'm quiet. I say "fuck" a lot. Some people consider it a dirty word. I consider it one of the most versatile verbs/adjectives/expletives in existence. I pride myself on finding new and unique ways to use the word "fuck". If you don't like the word "fuck," I strongly suggest you be fond of providing discipline. If that didn't scare you off, then let me tell you a bit about what I'm looking for. I'd love to find a dominant capable of providing some structure in my daily life. Play time is also fun. Sex isn't necessary, but may be negotiated. Male or female, this person must be a natural dominant with an innate sense of what his/her sub needs. I know it's a tall order. Sometimes I need a thing and don't know what the thing is. You may not have me figured out right away, but you should be able to provide support from a more objective perspective than my own. What I offer you is negotiable. Obviously this will work better if you're nearby.










Last Online:


 Female Slave



 5' 4"






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Female

Dominant Male

Friends Only

A Poly Household

 Lives For:



 Amusement Parks

 Fine Dining

 Going to the Opera


 Musical Theater



 Horseback Riding

 Snorkeling (Beginner)

 Canes and Crops


 Fire Play


 Hair Pulling

 Massage (Getting)

 Obedience Training





 Puzzle Games


 Singing (Expert)

 Lifestyle BDSM (Beginner)


 Eighties Music

 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Show Tunes


 Art Galleries

 Coffee Shops



 Renaissance Faires









 Walking (Beginner)

 Yoga (Beginner)

 Anal Play


 Bondage (Beginner)

 Breast Play

 Electrical Play

 Exhibitionism (Beginner)

 Genital Punishment

 Local BDSM Community

 Foot Worship (Beginner)


 Leashes (Beginner)

 Massage (Giving) (Beginner)


 Needle Play (Beginner)

 Objectification (Beginner)

 Orgasm Denial

 Plastic Wrap (Beginner)

 Public Play  (Beginner)

 Vacuum Stimulation (Beginner)

 Wax play

 Arcade Games (Beginner)

 Board Games



 Comedy Shows

 Horror Movies

 Romance Novels

 Science Fiction


 Alternative Medicine

 Cooking (Beginner)

 Gardening (Beginner)

 Knitting (Beginner)

 Meditation (Beginner)

 Painting (Beginner)


 Tattoos (Beginner)




 Intellectual Discourse



 Physics (Beginner)


 Classical Music

 Nineties Music

 Opera Music


 Pop Music

 Punk Rock Music






 Aerobics (Beginner)


 Gags (Beginner)

 Tickling (Beginner)

 Curious About:

 Martial Arts

 Scuba Diving

 Surf Boarding

 Corsets (Beginner)

 Dilation (Beginner)

 Outdoor Bondage

 Suspension (Beginner)

 Gorean Lifestyle (Beginner)


 Bar Hopping

 Bird Watching



 Body Worship (Beginner)

 Gas Masks


 Pantyhose Fetish

 Sensory Deprivation



 Writing (Expert)




 Corner Time

 Housework Service

 Stockings (Beginner)



 Hard Limits:

 Medical Play (Beginner)

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Journal Entries:
9/3/2017 12:07:28 PM
It seems I don't post here very often. For some reason, however, I've felt compelled to make a post lately. I can't say what about, as I'm not even sure of that myself. Let's just say it will probably be an emotional cleansing. For those who don't wish to read, there's no obligation for this post (however, I strongly advise that you read the others prior to contacting me). I've gone through quite a bit lately. I lost a student and a beloved pet within a few weeks and it was devastating. I was not at all in a good place emotionally. I will openly admit that I burned a couple bridges during that time. I'm not proud of the way I handled things, but I also don't believe it was necessarily the wrong choice to discontinue those relationships. Now that I've begun to recover, I realize how self-centered we as humans can be. I feel like I lost a part of myself during this time. A small piece of my fragile inner self hardened, perhaps beyond repair. This leaves me wondering if perhaps I'm just a bit more damaged now; a bit less desirable than I already was. No, don't answer the question for me. I don't need your encouragement. I Need to rebuild my own confidence and find myself again. Through this entire time, though, I found myself focusing on my own misery and I found my friends trying to commiserate with their own stories of loss. Why would they do that? I mean, this is about me, about what I'm going through, right? And then it hit me. This is not how I intend to live my life. This is not who I am. Or at least not who I was. Where is the young woman who was once so eager to serve and please? Where is the girl who would fight to the death for what she wanted? Where is the person who sought out and bonded with the meek? I don't know the answer. Perhaps she is broken beyond repair. Perhaps she just needs someone to draw her back out. For now, have patience. I am healing. I am searching. I hope to find that woman again.

1/15/2017 10:11:01 PM
I never thought I'd have to say this... I insist on the use of condoms. I don't care if we're dating. No condom, no sex.

6/17/2011 7:20:21 AM

So... This morning my cat is sitting on the window seat sunning. There is a spider in the window. What does she do? Chase the spider, you say? No. She chases the spider's shadow. I don't think I've ever seen a dumber cat in my life lol. At least she's happy, right?

11/6/2010 10:42:56 AM

A message to those who call themselves dominant:

Being dominant does not give you the right to be disrespectful.

Being submissive does not mean i should tolerate your disrespect.

Being dominant does not give you the right to ignore my boundaries, or demand that they be changed.

Being submissive does not mean I cannot or should not set reasonable boundaries.

Being dominant does not mean you can or should call or text me at 4am, just because you feel like it.

Being submissive does not mean that I will or should tolerate you calling or texting at 4am.

Being dominant does not mean that you address any an all confrontations with what you consider discipline.

Being submissive does not mean that I avoid any and all confrontations for the sole purpose of making you happy.

Being dominant does not mean that you and your schedule are the only thing that matters.

Being submissive does not mean that I can or will automatically drop everything to cater to your desires.

Being dominant does not mean that your wants come before my needs.

Being submissive does not mean that I will accept your wants as my own.

Being dominant does not mean you can demand that I call you "Sir", or "Master", or "Daddy", or whatever before I even know you.

I do respect those who respect me, but being submissive does not mean that I will immediately title. A title is a term of respect, and if you don't respect me, I have no reason to give you that term of respect.

If you think any of this is incorrect, then there is really no point in pursuing any sort of relationship with me. You will leave the conversation feeling wounded, and I will leave the conversation thoroughly annoyed. It doesn't help either of us. Oh, and to those of you who, for some reason, still didn't get the concept... calling me a bitch won't help. I'm starting to think it's a compliment.

9/27/2010 6:43:26 AM
If you ignore my profile, you're not allowed to be offended when I bite your head off. End of story.

10/21/2008 11:08:14 PM
Found this, thought it was awesome...

"The Top 10 Most Commonly Found Doms Online: " 

1." The 'I Am Dom Hear Me Roar' Dom:
All shiny new leather wear, with a belt full of toys (just bought at Jack's Whip-O-Rama). Of *course* he knows what to do! He read SM101...and even watched Exit To Eden three whole times!"

2. "The 'I Just Wanna Get Laid' Dom:
Roams the halls of AOL sending IMs to the ladies in the Chateaux telling them "On your knees! I am a Dom and U R my slave!". When he gets irate IMs back from the Domme he just sent to by mistake (what, read a profile? you *must* be kidding, right?), he quickly changes his tune to "R U a FDom? I am your slave! May I lick your boots?".

3." The 'Dungeon Slut' Dom:
Has a new 'lady love' each day (sometimes 2 or 3 a day). He swears each time that *this* one is his 'eternal true love' least for the next two hours."

4. "The 'Psycho-Stalker' Dom:
Wants to know *exactly* what you do...every minute of the day and night. Insists on BCCs of all sent mail, and Forwards of all read mail, plus access to your account to check up on you. Do you get the feeling that someone is watching you? With this one, you're probably right."

5." The 'I Just Wanna Be Your *Friend*' Dom:
Offers to guide you and protect innocent sweet thing you. Oh, those other 10 subs? Just friends. Really."

6.' The 'Of Course Im Dom...Uh Oh My Wife Is Home Gotta Run' Dom:
Warning signs: Picks 'no response' on marital status in profile. "No honey you can't call me at my voice mail instead". Often disappears in the middle of a hot n heavy cyber session...uses an excuse like 'my power went out' when asked about it. "Of *course* Im not married!" "

7. "The 'Im Not *That* Type Of Dom' Dom:
Squeaky-clean image. The type of Dom that everyone *knows* is a good guy. He would never do something less than up-front and honorable. Uh-huh."

8. "The 'Tom Cruise' Dom:
He's young, rich, handsome and perfect....until you meet him in person. Then you find out that the 'Tom Cruise look-alike' you've been subbing to is 5'4", 400 lbs, bald, 48 years old, and living with his elderly mother. (Oh yeah... and he works as a clerk at 7-11...not as a CEO of a 'major corp')."

9. "The 'Alex I'd Like to Buy a Clue For $200' Dom:
Ok, now you've got a what?"

10. "The 'I Don't Have A Sub Bone In My Body' Dom:
Really a bottom at heart, just refuses to admit it...even to himself."

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